How to fall in love again by luvdlux

"I was hurt, both by a long term marriage and another long term relationship. In both I was dooped, and felt I couldn't fall in love again because I was too wise for that. However, friendship is always a trickster."

How I did it: I was closed to the idea of dating. I was closed to the idea of looking for someone else. I didn't look for anyone, but I also went out regularly with friends and had activities with both sexes.


Slowly a friend of many years and I kissed out of the blue and we realized, after really trying to stop the relationship, that it was inevitable. 

We had been falling in love as friends and getting to know each other really well for the past couple years, with no pretention, no facade.

Love came, without me looking for it, but I also did not close myself from the opportunity to create connections.

Lessons & tips: Falling in love, for real, comes from truly getting to know someone and being excited for them. What we feel many times is infatuation, and it crashes and burns when you get to know the person.

Being open to friendships, and to whatever happens is better than deciding you will or will not fall in love again.

Resources: Talking to others, going out with friends, staying connected.


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