How to get over him by dreamworker

"It was a dizzying roller-coaster ride! Glad that it happened and I was able to experience it, but I'm happy that the ride's over!:)"

How I did it: Getting over someone leaves you with a feeling of emptiness, feels like a void is there where there used to be a relationship.

I know that I should fill up that void to be able to feel like myself again. I began to make some changes with myself first...

I thought it was necessary to cut all ties with him and to do that, I did not go with our common friends anymore. It was quite hard. I have tried to keep them, but every time I do, I keep coming back to that same old rut I was trying to avoid.

I also busied myself with work and joined in an organization where volunteers are needed for community projects like tree-planting, medical mission..etc.. I used up my energy to help other people and the longer I worked and help, the lesser I think of him. I grew more confident of myself and more immersed on other people. I have many new friends.I changed my routine...

I replaced that emptiness with new experiences and new people.. until one day, the void is no more!
I'm complete and whole again even in the absence of a new relationship..

The next time he called me to have him back (which I thought was a bluff to test whether I'm still shattered over him or not), I realized that I don't really want or need him anymore.

Lessons & tips: When you're still blue and still in the process of moving on, it would be hard to believe what everyone else is saying here. Listen to supportive people. The cliches are true! Those fell on my deaf ears before, but I realized that they're absolutely right!

You have a reason to be hopeful and optimistic of the future because you're going to achieve this goal soon..

There will be days when you relapse into old ways, but stand up again and don't give up. Use this time to get reacquainted with yourself and know yourself more.


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Nov 19, 2009, 06:51AM PST | 8 comments | 73 cheers


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newyorklover is happy she discovered this site.

Thank you sooo much. I found this really helpful as I’m in the same situation. I’m planning on volunteering soon, too! :)

Jun 25, 2010, 10:29AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

ooamaimomooo time you enjoy wasting is not wasted.

cheeered

:D

Sep 05, 2010, 10:33AM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

pondicherry

thanks :)

this is a really really helpful contribution
I am in this position feeling a bit empty because I ended a 2-years relationship
And I am about to have the same intentions: taking part in university-life, volunteer

Thanks, you showed me that I am on the right path… sort of

Jan 21, 2011, 11:57AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

dreamworker geez..

I’m glad.
When you take something out, fill it up with other things. You’re in the right track. Goodluck!

Jan 21, 2011, 06:42PM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

sodamnlucky19 everybody talks, everybody talks too much

“when you take something out, fill it up with other things”

couldn’t have said it better myself.

Oct 26, 09:58PM PDT | Respond to this 4 cheers

candiedsky Quizás, Quizás, Quizás

this is awesome

someone can tell themselves they’re over that person, but it takes honestly and release to actually make that true. this was really helpful! :)

Jul 05, 2011, 04:38AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

Alleexx Zhang @ mumford and sons "the cave": y are u guys amazing, but...

thx ppreciate it!

I don’t get it…im usually really happy and peppy and proactive and rarely complain and obedient….and now my crush is with his girlfriend and I’m feeling jittery, suddenly have an attitude with my family….i mean it isn’t their faults…and recently i canceled a volunteer opportunity b/c i’m too commiteed…i need to re-evaluate and ask if i still could be part of this opportunity b/c it is tearing me apart…..................

Aug 04, 08:02PM PDT | Respond to this

Dead7and_Dreaming is tired of math!

Bravery is inside your heart.

You are so brave!!!!!!! If I was in a relationship that way (with a girl not a guy since I’m a guy!) I don’t think I could do that, sever the ties with the usual friends I’ve had and that person as well. I just can’t imagine myself forever hating a person I loved in the past.

I’ve never been in a relationship and am 16 so I really wouldn’t know anything about that. I’m such a dissolutionned coward.

Oct 11, 04:16AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers


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