How to love someone with abandon
How I did it: I started with a serious analysis of what I was afraid of-- what was I not willing to abandon? In the beginning I was not willing to abandon my fear and I was not willing to abandon my belief that I could trust someone in a way where I genuinely believed that they would be just in their representation of self. I also was unsure if I could have relationships where a man would not be intimidated by my polyamorous-dedication to life and social justice.
I am not under any assumptions that I've mastered this goal, and I think loving with abandon is a life style that you grow into over over time, but I definitely took my first steps this year by believing in an individual as much as I expected them to believe and trust in me.
Lessons & tips: 1) Analyze your fear.
2) Name the fear.
3) Honor the fear.
4) Let the fear go.
5) When it rears its head, be kind, then let it go again.
Resources: Emily Nudge, who said: "Samantha, loving someone with abandon is probably the most radical thing you can do."
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