How to learn to not shy away from confrontation by NY2009

"Arduous. A long, slow process."

How I did it: I wasn't able to overcome my fear and resistence until I had built up my personal  and emotional strength and confidence.  I had to stop bullying and doubting myself, being hard on myself and giving my power away. 

Then I looked at whatever emotions I was feeling as guideposts, but let them simmer down so that I could come from a place of calm and strength.  It took planning.  I gathered all of the information I could on the situation, as well as read up on positive confrontation. 

Then basically I just had to jump.

Lessons & tips: Don't confront in the heat of any emotion.  Once you calm down, figure out what you need to do.

Resources: If you're a reader, read up.  Lots of good books on the subject.


 

Jan 06, 2010, 09:59AM PST | 3 comments | 5 cheers


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Jun 27, 2010, 11:07PM PDT

NY2009 Goals are dreams with a deadline.

I'm sorry to hear

that you’re struggling to take care of yourself. Here’s a few resources that might help: on this page is a good series on responding to verbal abuse here, and a good book that might help is Bullies Below the Radar. Also, I’m a big fan of this Daily Pep Talk.

Good luck!

Jun 28, 2010, 05:08AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

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Jun 29, 2010, 01:34AM PDT

NY2009 Goals are dreams with a deadline.

Hmm.

I really don’t know how that would work and only know my own small experience. I hope that you will succeed, feel strong and good about yourself, and let me know what works for you. Take care of yourself out there! :)

Jul 06, 2010, 01:58PM PDT | Respond to this

heybone111 Fall pledge - Lose weight, lose weight, lose weight

Opps

I ment to cheer this… I cheered get your palm read by mistake. “Cheer” =D

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