How I did it: I had this terrible relationship with this guy. He was awful to me and I was too enamored to get out of it when I should have. It went on for too long and when I finally managed to see that he was destroying me, I cut him out of my life. For the most part, anyway. He lives with two of my close friends. I only went over there once or twice in the subsequent 7 months, but every time I saw him, it was like being punched in the gut. I don't hate him, and I never have, but I let the hurtful things he did to me fester and come into other relationships. I cried about it and I wrote about it and I thought about it a lot. Now...I have come to terms with a lot of things about it. I can think of him and not cringe. I can think of him and hope that he is happy. And I'm pretty proud of myself for really getting past it.

Lessons & tips: TIme is a great healer. I know it's really cliched, but it is. Also, you have to LET yourself get over it. You have to realize that what's done is done, and even though you may have screwed up, and they may have screwed up, that you still can move on with your life and learn from your mistakes. It doesn't have to be the end of the world. 

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Jan 28, 2010, 09:51PM PST | 0 comments | 4 cheers