How I did it: I needed to have a good relationship with my ex-husband because we have a son together. I didn't want my son worrying about taking sides once we split. It was hard in the beginning, but acting civil and polite finally gave way to being friendly and helpful to each other. My current husband and my ex get along well and have a mutual respect. Funny as it sounds, I have a good relationship with my current husband's ex-wife, too. Working through the anger and discomfort enables you to look back at the past with fondness. I had to alter my expectations and realize that my ex would never change. Once I accepted things as they were, I could relax and let our routines fall into place.
Lessons & tips: Attempt to have some holidays or events together. If it doesn't work out one year, try again the next year.
Resources: I talked to friends, especially friends that cared for both of us.
dlchick *What I desire desires me as well*
but I’m glad you made this work for your child. I was faced with the same issue 5 years ago when I got a divorce. I still think of my ex as family, only in a non-romantic, yucky-distant-cousin sort of way, haha. But seriously, it does make things so much easier when you get along, doesn’t it?
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