How I did it: But I would say  there has been enough improvement to mark it done. In some ways my husband did not always go along with the plan. Decision making is not his strong suit, so he would often cede the decision making to me. Bad idea, I was always only too willing to do so. I now insist he make most of the decisions, especially if the decision will affect both of us. I have also insisted he be the authority on our money, also not his strong suit. He still struggles with balancing the checkbook. I will help, but it is his responsibility. We have a way to go there, because money is still tight, and he has not officially given me an allowance, I sometimes fly the coop and go on spending sprees with the checkbook. I think that is a subject for a whole new goal. But... it is obvious he feels more respected. He seems much happier and more confident! things are just better. I am relieved, there is less tension and stress with him in charge of what he should be!
:-)
KM

Lessons & tips: Read "Love and Respect"! Also "The Surrendered Wife"! Just let go. It is hard at first but you can do it!

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May 15, 2010, 06:24AM PDT | 0 comments | 3 cheers