How I did it: Writing journals, associating only with friends who were supportive and positive and doing whatever that made me happy. Watching comedies, exercising, learning to draw, doing things that I did not have time to do. Must say that it was difficult for me to go out of the house in case I bumped into anyone who would ask me about my unemployment. Was really thankful to have family and friends who could understand my situation and I could talke… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Being aware of the factors that dragged me down, of the experiences that made me feel small, the people who put me down. Grieving over the loss and then accepting that those do not define me. So many times have I avoided opportunities out of fear, but, I reminded myself that I must be a role model to the people I serve and that forced me out of my comfort zone. Also, opening my eyes to the guardian angels in the people who believed in me.… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Finally asked myself why am I wasting so much time on facebook and realised that while there were valid reasons for using facebook, there were also times when I was just bored and wasting time on facebook. It does serve the side of me that wants to socialise, be entertained, keep in touch with friends overseas, etc. Now, I would occupy my time productively with useful activities that are much more useful and address the same needs faceboo… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Being fast is always associated with productivity. Slow means lazy and is always associated with guilt. I guess that's just the way I am brought up. Mum would always scold when I am resting and slowing down. And soon, my mum's voice becomes internalised and I cannot slow down without feeling very guilty and thinking that I am "wasting time". It is only when I am burning out that I realised that my health and my happiness and my life will … Read how I did it…
How I did it: Understanding my time wasters and my needs that are satisfied by doing all those time wasters helped me to stay clear. I was so hooked to facebook, msn, youtube etc. Always thought that people might be responding to me and I need to reply asap. Yes, that's right. The need for instant response and of course instant gratification. But, when I started having worse skin, dark eye circles, weaker immunity and fatigue, it was really not worth i… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Exploring my needs that are met by the relationship. Self-awareness makes it so much easier to understand why I could not let go. I finally recognise the function of him in my life. He addressed the need in me to feel normal, to feel special, to feel loved. That's because I can't love myself and I can only see the flaws in myself. Now, I need to let go of him, he's just a temporary medicine that cannot address the root of the problem. I a… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Talking to my close friends and writing in my diary helped me to sort out my feelings and thoughts. It was really painful initially. But, the best advice my friend gave was that I need to face it and stop avoiding it. Yes, I have been avoiding him. But, gradually, I was able to face it again. And, facing it was the first step towards recovery. Now, I can finally move on and be grateful for the time we had without any grudges :) Read how I did it…
How I did it: It is such a relief to pass my driving finally! Must admit that it was rather difficult for me initially to admit that I have problems with learning to manage a manual car. The constant changing of gears and the fear of stalling were too stressful. Yet, I insisted on learning driving. But, being honest with myself made me decide that I had to absolutely had to learn automatic car instead as I need my licence fast. Even then, I procrastina… Read how I did it…
How I did it: - saved lots of money by aggressively cutting down on my spendings. - reading up and talking to people to get advice on how to do it. - taking partial loan from relatives.- linking up with friends who had friends overseas. - networking with people. Read how I did it…
