I would be lying if I say that I just woke-up one moring and felt like I wanted to stay single.
I have gone through the stages of getting close to a person, realising that we are not meant to be, breaking of non-functional relationships ( that was though.. ), falling for another -and have the same cycle repeated all over again ! :D how smart’s that ?? ! lol
Anyways, as far as I have seen, most of the people go through these phases at one or other point in their lives. Its completely ok to go through it. Just dont take it too personally. Coz it happens to everyone. Its a very vital process of “growing-up”. ( yes, you can be 60 and still be “growing-up” !)
After going through all the drama, I realised that I can achieve so much more if I stay single. I can focus exclusively on what I want to be. Sure you may feel lonely and down sometimes.. and would love to have a shoulder to lean on.. But at those moments of weakness, you have to realise that- “YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF” !.
And remind yourself of all the freedom you’ll be giving up. ( you cant check-out other ppl for one ! :D lol !! )
Over the years, I have realised that working on your self esteem is definitely the first and most important step. If you cant respect yourself, dont expect others to.
Keep the lessons. Forgive the people who caused you pain. Most important of all- Forgive yourself.
Get a new hobby. Immerse yourself into things you are passionate about.
love yourself,your life and the people in your life who matter to you.
cheers !!
hug
