As dd grows up learn how to remain connected.

- my daughter needs to spend more time visiting extended family members which is a challenge as extended family members are not as into this as we are. Long story. But I’d like to work on this once a month would be a fair attempt.
- my daughter is easier to connect with when doing a specific outing rather than just going for a random walk. She needs more organized activities at this age that are appropriate for her.

We stayed at a hotel, went swimming, walked around the water and city, saw a Broadway show, ate out, went to a museum and picked up some fireworks on the way home. Super exhausted but we connected over some really fun activities.

When we were on vacation my dd had a great deal of grumpiness and she wasn’t very happy or nice many times. Basically it came down to if we were not in the pool doing exactly what she wanted then she was miserable and difficult to deal with. I don’t know if it’s her age or if she has a low blood sugar thing going on. Will check with the doctor on this one. As it may be both. She’s always had a challenging, demanding and in charge kind of personality which I don’t want to change as it will serve her well as an adult it may just make me wacky in the mean time. :) But I noticed that after she’s eaten that she does seem to be more amenable to change. Something to work on.

I have been asking dd what she wants to do. That way she gets to feel like she can make some decisions and we get to spend some time together. Being flexible as she grows up allows me more time with her.

I was upset because my dd doesn’t seem to want to do anything with me.

So a nice mom on twitter let me know that she’s at the age where she wants to lead and choose.

So I let her do just that the last two nights and we really had a lovely time. sigh

Last night she had a migraine and it’s me that she wants to sit with in the dark, to hold her in the dark, to comfort her when she has to be in the dark because the light hurts too much. To soothe her with my words, my presence, to rub her back. To make sure she has every stuffed animal she possibly needs.

H.E.L.P.

My co-workers who are moms didn’t know what to say – they just laughed when I said that I offered to take her to the movies or shopping and she said no she was staying home.

They said wait until she is a teenager.