Make new friends

I moved to Chicago a month ago and knew no one. The closest friends I had were an hour away.

I talked to everyone I met: classmates, professors, school faculty and staff, and people in coffee shops, etc who were open for chatting. I talked about myself, asked about them, etc. Not to be morbid, but I felt this was wise in case something happened to me. Someone would know who I was and might miss me, even if they barely knew me. It began as a safety thing, but I knew it might also help me find friends or at least acquaintances. It would also help me learn more about the workings of city life a lot quicker than trial and error alone.

This is panning out well already. I have classmates’ E-mails and phone numbers. Even if it’s just to check on class assignments, this is a good start. I have stepped out of my comfort zone and am surviving rather well, I think. I am eager to step out more. I think eventually I will have friends.

Networking is very important in any field of study. The more people you know and who know you and your capabilities, the more help you will get along the way, and you will be remembered when a great opportunity arises. Everyone you know is in your network. Your friends, family, co-workers, classmates, professors, the lady you baby-sit for, and even that person you held the door open for.

Be outgoing, and be chatty. Learn about small talk and how to work it into big talk. You will make connections and friends, make a network, and ultimately life will be a lot easier.

I made a new friend through an art show. We get along so well. Unfortunately, he seems to have a crush on me. I don’t want that. I want a FRIEND. I’d love some female friends. I don’t have enough of those. People need to hang out with their own sex sometimes, you know?

So I came out of my shell and entered into an art show. I got to talking with a fellow artist and we exchanged business cards. I hope we keep in touch and have coffee, etc. I hope he doesn’t end up falling for me. I am tired of that happening with every guy I meet. I never end up feeling the same. Anyway, best not to think of that now. Optimism! I have a new friend!