be less judgmental

I have a new roommate who I adore and we are very good friends. However, she is racist and very judgmental of other people which makes it difficult for me. I’m someone who always speaks up if I hear the N word used and I did for the longest time with her, but now it’s quite a common thing for her to say and I find myself not even noticing it at times.

I’ve also found how easy and fun it is to make fun of people when I’m with her. Sitting down now and writing about it, it makes me feel terrible. I know I am a stronger person and I can stand up for what I think is wrong. Just because it can be funny and it’s easy to make fun of other people doesn’t make it even close to being right.

I view this as a major setback and something I need to work on right away.

A young couple expecting a baby just moved into my apartment building this month. I didn’t judge the fact that they were young or unmarried (I’m a single mom myself) but the girl was 9 months pregnant wearing a hot pink ruffled mini skirt JUST barely covering her butt. Yikes.

Being judgmental, I promptly started the “Oh my god…did you see?!” conversation with a few of my family members. (and yes, they had seen, it was not something you see everyday)

This was weeks ago and I just realized today that it probably wasn’t the right way of thinking if I’m trying to be less judgmental.

Still working on it, I guess. sigh

On the outside, I’m a very outgoing, accepting person who people like to be around. But lately, on the inside, I judge people before they even say hello. I’ve found that I’m kind to people who don’t make me feel threatened, but I assume every girl who is prettier than me is a bitch, I assume every guy who I wish I could have the confidence to approach is a jerk. I’ve been proven wrong so many times, I should be over this by now. I know that you can’t judge people based on who they are with, what they look like, etc. but I still do it. I think this is a part of another goal I need to have, BE LESS BITTER.