tell people how i REALLy feel

The other day my friend and I were chatting on the IM. I told her I sold something on Ebay, and she said WOW. Now from every other conversation we have, I thought she was being a smart ass. I was not hurt by the comment, i’m just so used to her smart remarks, that I thought she was like “i’ll alert the media”. So I sent back a “uugghh”, it was meant to be a “no you didn’t”. It wasn’t the regular ugh, but she couldn’t detect my tone, like I couldn’t detect hers. But instead of her saying something to me, she assumed that I was upset, and didn’t tell me that according to her blog “was the most offended she has been in her life.” Now I guess she got it out of her system in her blog, but now I have the comments, and our other friends asking what happened. So it’s still not behind us, we talked on the IM about other stuff, but this incident keeps popping up. My problem is that she is always that she is always riding me for being too sensitive, yet she took this way out of proportion. And she couldn’t tell me, I had to find out from her blog, I just thought she was busy when she hadn’t returned my IM’s, but she was ignoring me. Now I want to tell her this, but on the same hand I want it to be done with. I swear I hate misunderstandings.

because I really don’t like to hurt people’s feelings. But sometimes I just want to shake people and snap at them. Especially when they take something you say the wrong way, and instead of verifying, they take it ans run with it. You are working yourself up and getting bothered over nothing. If you would just open your mouth and ask, you would know what I really meant and not be upset over nothing.

Today my husband and I talked to his mom on speakerphone. At some points in the conversation she forgot she was on speakerpone because she was only talking to him. Well on two occasions she said something that sounded a little instigative to me. The first thing she said was a comment about my husband saying he came home from his friends house because my daughter and I were hungry. Before he left to go to his friends, I told him that we we’re going to have burgers for dinner, so at 8 I called to see if he was coming to do the burgers, not knowing that he ate at his friends. So after he told her that he came home, she said ” you came home to cook for them” like he was way out of his place to do that. Then somehow they got on the discussion of being ready to go on time, and he told her how we are on the same time and are ready to go at the same time. Then she busts out with, ” I remember a few times when ya’ll were here and she wasn’t ready to go, you had to wait on her.” He then told her I am on time if it’s an appointment or something like that. I felt like why do you need to bring that up, that is irrelevant if he said that we were on the same time. I wanted to say something, but I didn’t. I don’t know if I was just taking it personally, but the tone was a bit instigative to me.