ask for help when i need it, and accept help when it's offered

I think I’m improving – which may mean I’m also improving my learn to love myself goal. I’ve been allowing friends to go out of their way for me recently. I have to make it a conscious decision, and force myself to ask or say yes. It sounds absurd, I know. But whats really absurd is setting up friendships where I bend over backwards, make sacrifices and don’t even allow others to do the same for me let alone ask for a favor. Those kind of friendships are unhealthy and I set myself up to feel screwed over – there’s no one to blame but me.

I just went through a miscarriage while I was out of town and staying with semi-strangers. I HAD to surrender to letting other people help me and help me in some very personal ways… I think I realized right away that this was not the time to be stubborn because it wasn’t just about me it was about trying to save my baby. I had to let people get me water (the hardest thing of it all), clean up blood behind me, and I even let a guy I knew for only 48 hours rub my feet (I give foot rubs, I don’t accept them). In the end a tragic situation was also a beautiful experience. I just figured out that letting others love you is connected to loving yourself.