reconnect with old friends

What I have just read is disappointing and disgusting at the same time. Here’s the thing: I probably mentioned my childhood friend before, the one with relationship problems. Anyway, her ex is one of the people I stopped speaking to, mostly because I’m disgusted and insulted with his behavior. Consequently, her and mine friendship got colder (almost froze). However, they broke up a few months ago and she found a new boyfriend. From that time on, I was the one she came over for advice. She and her ex were “friends”, but their relationship hadn’t changed at all. She is crying because of him every single day, and has long lost touch with reality and morale. On the other hand, her new boyfriend is a wonderful, caring boy who actually loves her.
So, one day, after their fight no. 34528765, she said to me that she finally realized that she doesn’t need him, after he hurt her badly. She wanted him out of her life, and sounded serious about it. So I encouraged her to do it, as always. I forgot to say, every time I had listened to her stories, I would get upset too. I hated to see her suffering and thought of it as my own problem. I really wanted to help her, protect her, but it was giving no results. She was changing her mind 5 times a day. Anyway, that same day we went to a party, and 15 minutes after we got there, she was talking to him like nothing happened. It really pissed me off. Earlier she gave me her Facebook password, so when I came home, I checked if they were still in contact. I was right – they were. When I confronted her about that, I additionally found out that he is coming over her place. It was then that I decided to let her do whatever she wants, because I was sick of her lies.
It’s been two weeks since that day. Today I randomly decided to log into her profile to see a person that’s her friend, but not mine, and guess what? I saw another chat that I now wish I never saw. She was fighting with him, they mentioned having sex after she entered new relationship, he insulted me again, and she didn’t even try to defend me, then he gave her the choice: me and new boyfriend or him. SHE CHOSE HIM.
I don’t know what to do. I just can’t sit with my hands tied anymore. I know that she doesn’t care about me, I knew that before, but her poor boyfriend doesn’t. He doesn’t know about her cheating and lying. I feel sorry for him, and I would take his side if I could. Now I’m thinking of telling him. To be precise, first I’m going to tell her that I know what she actually thinks about us and does behind our backs. I’ll tell her to stop communicating with her ex. If she doesn’t, I’m going to give her boyfriend just a little hint about the affair, and make him to find out on his own. Maybe there drastic measures will save her.
She’s on this site too. I hope she reads it, and think of it as a warning. She’s the one who best knows that I don’t hesitate much when it comes to these things.

Past few months were very tough for me, since I’ve had to deal with a break up of a long term relationship and loss of a freelance job that I hoped to become permanent. But, all those were not as difficult as losing some friends that I loved very much. What happened, nobody really knows. I guess we just slowly parted, without any obvious reasons and an ‘official’ ending of a friendship. We just got caught up in our own problems. Another my disadvantage was the fact that my ex and my friends didn’t get on well at all. So, this moment of crisis was used by another person – a girl that I always thought of as manipulative, selfish, critical, and cruel. She also has a negative opinion about me. So she just slowly got into my clique, but avoided conversation with me. Since I was busy solving my own problems, I didn’t have enough time and energy to deal with her in the beginning of all this. When I finally woke up, it was too late. They formed a new group, and wasn’t a part of it. My old friends didn’t show even an occasional interest in me. I must admit I really suffered, since I unsuccessfully tried to be friendly and we all go to the same class and I had to watch them. Suddenly, after observing them so much, I realized how badly this girl influenced them and how drastically they changed. This is when I decided to stop trying, because even if we got closer again, I don’t know if I want to be friends with persons they have become.
Luckily, I have two friends I can always count on – my new boyfriend (who was my best friend for a long, long time) and my best friend since childhood. Only them I can trust.
Still, there are also people that I neglected while I was weeping about my former friends. And I really should reconnect with them, since they showed much more effort in becoming friends than I ever did. I shouldn’t have waited to be left alone to realize that.
So, now I’ll focus on calling my old friends (those who still deserve it) and acquaintances and meeting new people. Being an introvert, this is going to be very hard, but hey, nobody wants to be alone, right?