stop being a pushover

Yes, I finally said what I felt and the outcome is that the other party cannot accept what I really think and feel. Ah..though it was nice to be assertive and be true to myself, I need to accept the fact that not everyone appreciates me being assertive. Some prefer pushovers..after all, they can then get their way. I promise myself that I will be wary of such people who don’t like me being assertive for I am tired of letting others step all over me. Yes, I may lose some friends ..but are they really my friends in the first place? Perhaps not.

used to really like having this fren around..till she move over and kept coming to my house to eat whenever she’s hungry..wonder why she’s not more considerate and at least offer some dishes once in a while rather than eat for free all the time..sigh.. but, it is difficult to bring up this matter..don’t want to affect the friendship esp when she’s having family problems..sigh….any advice?

I hate myself for being a pushover.. I guess I have such a strong desire to please others and am very afraid of being scolded by others or being disapproved by others. Sometimes, I think that it is because I cannot really approve and accept myself and so has been relying on external approval. But, I am sick and tired of being a pushover! Yet, the strange thing is that when I start being assertive, I worry non-stop and ended up feeling guilty about whether I was being selfish.. Sigh.. However, I know that I cannot afford to be a pushover as this is not the way to help others too. I need to be true to myself and be kind to myself too.