keep in touch with friends

Well I wasn’t in touch enough. I found out on Friday that my best friend’s mother had passed away on Wednesday. This woman was an incredible person and her loss in affecting many MANY people. My best friend tried to contact me with the news on my land line and I ignored the phone because the only people who usually call me on it are telemarketers or relatives I’d much rather ignore than talk to. So it took three days for the news to reach me. Thankfully I caught it in time to go to the viewings and be there for support for her. She’s doing well, but I fear that she is bottleing it all up a bit too much. She has a habit of not showing how sad or upset she is. I’ll be sure to stay on top of staying in contact with her and not let our relationship slide like I have the past few months. She is very important to me and I’d hate to lose her as well.

I’ve started to clean to make room for a box of correspondence ephemra. I plan on sticking it under the couch in the tv room so that it’s readily available when I want to drop a line to someone.I’m trying to write at least one letter a week to someone in the hopes of reconnecting with lost friends and such.

My best friend from a million and one years ago (ok she’s only been my friend for 26 years), instant messaged me this evening asking if I wanted to meet her for ice cream and talk! I haven’t had a real close relationship with her since she got married and had kids over 8 years ago. We grew apart both being busy with jobs (hers much more important than my piddly min wage dealies) and raising a family(her) so we didn’t keep in contact very well. She’s been going through a rough time for two years with a divorce and reclaiming her life. Every once in awhile I’d hear from her in the form of an e-mail or a phone call between the two of us. Occasional visits with each other which were neither deep or reconnecting due to outside factors (kids, loud background noise while talking on the phone, husbands being around nosily listening in). I miss her intensly. We were inseprable growing up. We lived right next door to each other, took care of each other, had our childish fights which never amounted to more than a day of “dis friend you”. We were part of each others families, she talked to my mother about sex even though her mother was a nurse and was open to any kind of talk like that. I vacationed with them accepting her family as my own. I went to prom with her brother for my junior prom and she let me tag along with her and her boyfriend our senior prom.

So we sat in Eat N’ Park tonight for over five hours talking of life, divorce, recovering trust, sex, pets, adventure, children, family. I drank WAY TOO MUCH COFFEE! So much so that I could probably make it until 12 tomorrow afternoon without a single stitch of sleep. I’m bouncing off the walls and feeling particularly inspired to create. Unfortunately the house is asleep and I can’t do CRAP! I’ve got much to get packed and sent off tomorrow. My dolls are done. I know what I want my tags to express and the covers to say, I now need to make my little gifts for the pocket on the tag books and get them off to Myrth.

She poured forth with such honesty and openess about what had happened in her life and marriage and resulting divorce that it was kind of shocking. We’ve not talked in such intimate private detail in so long, I didn’t expect more than chit chat. Thankfully that’s what our friendship has always been. Open and honest and personal. It’s one of those friendships you just pick up and go on with as if you just saw each other the other day and this was just another day. I love that. I feel awful that she’s had to experience such hurt and loss of trust in people. She’s got a boyfriend and the way she describes him, sounds wonderful. Of course she’s having all the usual trust issues anyone from divorce has.

I’m hoping it’s not another 6 or 8 years before we have another get together. The small time I had with her made me realize I missed her incredibly!

I’m shamefull when it comes to keeping in touch with my friends and family. Other than my immediate family, I really don’t contact much of my extended family. I see them at family functions and that’s about it. I’ve never been a big phone person, I don’t know why, it’s just not my thing. I used to write letters on a frequent basis, but that isn’t happening much anymore. I really took a nosedive when I got my last job. It pretty much took over almost every aspect of my life. So, here’s me…trying to rememdy this an mae ammends.