be good to my mom

She came home with her new boyfriend a few weeks ago. I hadnt seen her for 5 months. Living with dad and her not wanting to bring her boyfriend to his house was frustrating with her and him being such good friends and him doing so much for her. When he found out that she didn’t want bring him to the house he was upset and embarrassed. She really made things tough when they didnt have to be. I still feel like she wasn’t adequately thankful for everything her ex husband is doing for her while she’s away..

She had a drunken few weeks home and that drove me crazy. I found out she smokes pot which was interesting.. She met my boyfriend. And we had some good times together but mostly I was frustrated at her not listening to me, focusing so much on her boyfriend, drinking and not attempting to spend time with her daughter.

The visit was extremely confusing and my tolerance wasn’t the best.

She is now selling her house and moving to B.C for good. I won’t likely see her for another year.

• Stop calling my mom in hysterics.
  Breaks her heart no doubt.

mom and I have actually been getting along for a few weeks now.. thanks gosh.
Today we are going into the city together. Spend some quality time together before she leaves again. :(

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She is very frustrating even to be with for a few hours! I can’t stand to drive her around. I’m a good driver, but she’s SUCH a backseat driver. And soooo negetive about everything. Always complaining. And it doesn’t feel like she listens. She has no interest in things I think are, and she’s so often distracted when I’m talking with her. Makes me feel like I’m 16 again; ” No one cares!! No one UNDERSTANDS my me!!” lol.

mom came home. I had cleaned up the house, dad had mowed the lawn, and bought groceries and flowers and I made a sign and we went and picked her up out of province and brought her back. Sometimes it feels like she doesn’t know how lucky she is, because she was still complaining about something. To be honest within a couple hours of being together in the same room we were already frustrated with each other. This is what I mean when I say “accept her faults” and “practice tolerance”.

Anyway I have to grit my teeth and zip my mouth every now and again when she is annoying me more often to be more tolerant. It should be easier to get along with her now that I’m living with dad and working fulltime. And at the same time her and I will have time to bond. She complicates things. That’s always what she has done. And it’s like what dad says “she is what she is”. He’s right. And that’s what I mean about listening and learning from my parents. I’ve been doing that more often with dad anyway, he gives good advice. I’m really trying to be less hard headed with them.

Why be most difficult with the people who love me the most?

Have a bread baking day with mom.
Pick her flowers.
Ask her where gram is buried. Ask if she’d like to go visit the grave with me…
Not get jealous when she shows adoration for her beautiful granddaughter.
Accept when she has a few drinks. Let go of the past. Stop feeling the rage.
Start paying more of my own expenses. Take on my phone bill. It’s about time haha.
Treat her to dinner.
Have a camp fire with her.
Practice Patience and tolerance!!!
Do favors for her.
Try and understand where she is coming from the best I can.
Accept her faults.

Arg I hate having to do it on everyday off, and if it rains then I have to do it after work and that’s even worse! It takes like 2 hours with the push mower. I’m so tuckered out lately.. But I did it ALL today in one go, so that’s all that matters. I just think of all the times she has mowed that lawn, and all the hard jobs she has done, and all the things that she has done for me in my life and grin and bear it.

This summer is the summer of hard work for me I guess. The summer that teaches me that you just have to work as hard as you can everyday and not complain. You just have to toughen up and do it!

Mowed her lawn today.
I will finish it tomorrow.

Mow her lawn.
Prepare the house for when she come home.
Go to pick her up with dad.
Get to know her better.
Show that I value and appreciate her.
Do what she asks, even when it’s not convenient.
Spend time with her.
Learn from her.