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DiamondMind is doing 13 things including…

find at least one thing each day that makes me happy and record it everyday for a year

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DiamondMind has written 166 entries about this goal

Obviously, I'm not done this goal,

But I feel like I just can’t keep up with it anymore. I’m constantly depressed and exhausted from work. I’ve toyed constantly with the idea of ending everything for awhile now. I feel like I need help, but no one else sees that because I’m so introverted and otherwise I have all these great things going for me (new car, fabulous new haircut, etc). The world seems to be at my fingertips, but it’s not.

My job has worn me out so bad that I don’t get out of bed until less than an hour before my shift, and when I come home (usually late, because I’ll cover another shift. I’m just so nice) I just go right back to bed. I have black circles under my eyes and I feel nothing but annoyance at every person I see. But I don’t want to. I want to love and smile and feel happy but I just don’t.

Today was my first day off in what feels like forever and I got woken up fifteen minutes into the first shift and they got mad and hung up when I said, “Please, no… I need this.” I spent all day crying because I’m just lonely and tired and worn out and I just can’t even think anymore.

I know I have a car now and can look for a new job but I just feel so dead inside. I’m comfortable at my job, this stressful job that schedules me for 19 hours a week and then constantly calls me in until I work 43. I can’t go through the job finding process again, I’m too tired and look how long it took for this one…

I want to beg for holidays but I know people will just call and text me constantly to come in for them. Why do you get a life? A schedule? I can’t build any sort of schedule around the way my hours jump around.

Nothing helps. I’m just frustrated and I feel like I’m headed nowhere. I’m too exhausted to update this goal anymore. I’m almost too exhausted to even keep goals. The thought of having new things to strive for almost makes me want to never get out of bed again.

I’m just too tired.

269-276 - 12/06/11-12/13/11

Sometimes I dislike this goal because I’m often too tired to keep up with it, even though I wish I could. I want to document most of the past month with excessive detail, just because it’s been so nice. But I haven’t been able to, so once again, the highlights:

  • My co-workers took me to go see the car I’d been watching online because it was amazing and no one would take me to see it. We went for a test drive and although I didn’t like it at first, I was completely sold on it. I gave a downpayment of $500.
  • After that we went to the mall and got our picture taken with Santa. A cliche teenager/college-aged kid thing to do, which of course I’d always wanted to!
  • I went with my family to get a Christmas tree and it was enjoyable, even though I was exhausted from working a 5 A.M. shift.
  • I found car insurance and made it official. Yesterday I drove the wonderful car home! I’m so happy I can hardly put my thoughts into words. I’m forever grateful for my supervisor. I wouldn’t have been able to even see the car, let alone buy it, without her help.
  • I went out to breakfast (I DROVE MYSELF!!!) with the same co-workers at this new place down the street from our workplace and it was delicious and too much fun.
  • And now I’m going to spend the last few hours before bed with decaf green tea and my cat, watching A Christmas Story. :)

260-268 - 11/27/11-12/05/11

How has it been a week since I updated? Why is time going by so fast?

I don’t feel very good today. It’s the first day I’ve had off in over a week (and I wasn’t called in, which was really shocking), and I feel like it kind of shows. I’m exhausted, worried that I may be getting the flu and I’m in the middle of buying a car.

So, for the past week, I’ve been kept happy by:

  • Sleep.
  • Tegan and Sara.
  • My cats.
  • The silly cartoon shows I fall asleep to.
  • Making people laugh at work.
  • Going to the mall with co-workers/friends and getting our picture taken with Santa. :)
  • The delicious new Gingerbread donuts at work.
  • Warm blankets.

I can’t really complain. :)

243-259 - 11/10/11-11/26/11

This must be my biggest absence from 43Things in just about… ever. It feels like so much longer than what it’s actually been though. A lot has happened.

I feel like for the past two weeks I’ve essentially just worked and slept. Often I am scheduled for about 27 hours during the week, and I end up working over 40. I’m called in early almost every day. Yesterday alone, FOUR people wanted me to come in early for them. I used to do this without thought, because I was saving for a car and desperately needed the money. Now I have the money, and I’m so exhausted that I’d just rather sleep. But I seem to have this inner force within me that yells, “GET UP. IF YOU’RE NOT DOING SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE NOTHING’S WORTH IT.” So I go in early or stay late almost every day.

On the seventeenth we went to the screening of Tegan and Sara’s highly anticipated three-movie and live album release “Get Along”. It was so, so amazing. The films were so beautiful and just had this wonderful feeling with them. I wanted to cry. Afterwards, they came out and did Q&A for about an hour. Unfortunately they couldn’t do a meet and greet, which I was sad about but still overly happy. I wanted it to last forever.

About a month ago I preordered Get Along, because it came in a deluxe package with three posters all signed by Tegan and Sara. That came in the mail after a terrible day at work and it was just about the greatest thing I’ve ever gotten for myself.

I ended things with the guy I was seeing. I am unsure of whether or not I’m ready to talk about why on here. He took it well and understood. We are still very close and talk every day.

Work is treacherous. We have line-ups at Storefront that go out the door and line-ups in drive-thru that go out the street ALL DAY and are now progressing farther into the evening and we never have enough staff working (or at least, enough well-trained staff). It’s ridiculous. It’s way too stressful. I’m still not used to getting slaughtered for things that aren’t my fault, and I just cannot wait until the day management comes to me and forces me to take my holidays. (They only force us because we get holiday pay with each paycheque.)

I wish I had a better reason as to why I’ve been neglecting my account so much, but in all honesty, I’m just really tired. I feel like I’m being run over by monster trucks on an hourly basis. Even my movements have slowed…

But I do feel hopeful. I know that this will pass, as it always does. I have a lot planned for the next few weeks. I hope to get a credit card (to use MATURELY. Come on now, you all know me. This will be for rare online purchases such as tickets so I won’t have to panic and race to the drugstore to get gift cards every time someone I love comes around. But I’m looking forward to building my credit! I feel like I really need financial goals to keep me going, lol), buying a car (I found one that will do. The price and mileage is good. I hate the colour, but I can’t take M.P. anymore), getting a haircut (a modified version of what I call the “Tegan”, that will hopefully make getting ready for work much easier), and hopefully going to Wal-Mart to get my armoire and frames for my signed Tegan and Sara posters. But that’s all easier said than done when I have no one who is willing to drive me.

BUT, as I said before, I remain positive. :)

241-242 - 11/08/11 and 11/09/11

I started midnights last night, and continue them for another week. I had not been trained to do storefront midnights, but I think I did fairly well. I did everything the checklist told me to do, at least. It was nice because until peak (it starts to get busy after 4 A.M.) I served maybe ten people all night, and they were all very kind and understanding because they knew it was only me there.

I’m not getting a lot of sleep. I’m ingesting vast amounts of coffee. I feel like I’m reaching every new day just to be one closer to seeing Tegan and Sara. But I’m not unhappy. I’m seeing a person who is beyond kind to me. But other people are not happy about it. I don’t use social media, and for some reason people I haven’t even seen in four years (people I never even talked to) have negativity towards my life when I work so hard to keep it mine. It shouldn’t, but it bothers me so, and I guess that’s why I’m so used to being alone. It’s so much easier.

I wish my business was mine.

235-240 - 11/02/11-11/07/11

Ugh. So today I finally had a day off. I’ve been going into overtime at work for going on two weeks, and it isn’t going to become any less in the next two weeks. In fact, starting tomorrow I have over a week of midnights, baker and storefront. I have midnights until the 17th, because I took it off for TEGAN AND SARA (EEEEEEE!) and then I have two more (that I know of) following that, as they denied my second requested day off because of it. :/

I’ve been kind of seeing the Dorian Gray friend I talk about. I don’t know what I think of it. On one hand I’m pretty happy with him but on another it’s kind of hard for a fair multitude of reasons. I guess one is distance as he lives in the city. I don’t know. Guess we’ll see where it takes me. He’s more good to me than any other guy I’ve ever dated, anyway.

So, in having nothing else to say, I’ll get to the point:

  • The Get Along screening is exactly TEN DAYS away!
  • I ordered Tegan and Sara’s entire discography and believe it arrives at the post office tomorrow. YAY!
  • I can expect a good next paycheque as I work so much in the next days. (Not even joking, I finish one midnight at 6 A.M., and am scheduled to come back at 3 P.M. to do an afternoon baking shift. Kind of annoyed over that, but oh well.)
  • I’m finally getting good hours at work after requesting more several weeks ago. Next step: getting on the plan.

Hopefully I will adjust easily to the midnights and will update this better. I apologize for not returning cheers and responding late to comments.

231-234 - 10/29/11-11/01/11

Past few days have been pretty busy. Full-time hours, but it’s been nice.

  • I made my Halloween costume as we were allowed to dress up at work. I had an eight-hour afternoon-night shift so the other person I was working with and I decided to go all out. It was really fun, and all the people we encountered were in good spirits. I got a lot of compliments on my costume. :)
  • I’m counting down the days to Tegan and Sara’s Get Along screening. I am SO excited!!
  • The new schedule went up yesterday and I found out I have all midnights next week, and not even baking midnights, STOREFRONT ones! I’ll casually mention that they’re not training me and I’ve NEVER done one before! ACK. Then I have baking midnights on the weekend. So, I don’t really know what to expect. I’m excited, but I’m kind of annoyed that they didn’t bother to ask or even warn me ahead of time.
  • I sat down today and organized my finances. I’ve been very lazy lately and haven’t written down anything, so it took awhile. I’m very happy with the result though!
  • Spending the past week watching Treehouse of Horror every night.
  • Leftover Halloween candy. :)

226-230 - 10/24/11-10/28/11

Arg. As usual I’ve managed to fall behind on these entries. But I never seem to be home anymore. I’m always working or otherwise out, mainly doing nothing but just trying not to be at home. Things have been slowly falling apart, especially since I started to really look at cars. (M.P. wasn’t happy to say the least.)

But some things have been good in the past few days. For example:

  • I got tickets to the screening of Get Along with live Q&A with TEGAN AND SARA!!!! OMGOMGOMGOMG. I’ve been intolerably excited since. I already have the day taken off work and I can’t wait. My chances of meeting them are pretty good. I’m going to hug them so hard! lol.
  • I went to an organic restaurant with my friend and had the most wonderful salad. It was so good! After that we went to a used bookstore just down the block and it was GLORIOUS. I wanted everything.
  • I’ve been car shopping rather seriously. I’ve test driven two cars. One was too expensive and the other was at a dealer that was rather questionable. But generally happy to be making progress.
  • Work has been pretty good, with the exception of today. We were so busy that I spent probably an hour-and-a-half of my four-hour shift actually baking. The rest I had to help on the floor because we were so busy all night. Not to mention I had a terrible headache and everyone wouldn’t stop yelling at me.
  • I bought a bunch of materials and plan on spending tomorrow making my Halloween costume. I work all afternoon to night on Halloween, but we’re allowed to wear costumes, so it’s going to be totally badass!

That’s about it for me. I apologize for being behind on cheers. I’ll catch up. And hopefully on my entries as well. I’m feeling a bit scattered without 43Things…

221-225 - 10/19/11-10/23/11

I’m lost.

I am overworked, sick, and brutally stressed out.

I was working an eight-hour day shift yesterday morning when they asked if I would go home early and then come back that night for a midnight shift. I was given a $25 gift certificate of my choice to do it. I didn’t mind so much, I would’ve done it without the certificate, but with my sleep patterns screwed up and the weather changing so fast (my house has no heat) and spending over an hour stocking the freezer and product last night (I had to bake an extra seven dozen donuts for a special order), I’m now sick. I feel drained and tired and sniffly.

I’m just exhausted. I’ve also been going out and looking at cars with my cousin. I’m basically never home anymore.

Highlights of the past few days:

  • Got my Tegan and Sara stuff in the mail. The books are exquisite, and I’ll be going over to my friend’s house tomorrow night after work to watch It’s Not Fun, Don’t Do it! (I’m excited!).
  • Tegan and Sara announced that they will be having a screening in the city for Get Along and they will be there doing a Q&A afterwards. I lost my mind and recruited my friend and a coworker who enjoys them to come with me. It’s going to be amazing!!!
  • I think I did really well on my midnight last night. Considering I had to bake an extra seven dozen donuts and one dozen muffins, I was standing at the table in the spotless kitchen an hour before my shift ended, picking at my fingernails and not knowing what else to do.
  • I’m in the process of car shopping! It’s really draining, but how exciting is that?
  • I have a day off after tomorrow.
  • I had a good conversation with my cousin about life. It’s terrible to be unhealthy and poor, the same thing day-in and day-out. It made me sad, but at the same time it was nice to relate to someone.

Yeah, I don’t really know what’s going on. I’ve really just been coasting if anything, and I feel restless despite the fact I’m overly tired from working all the time.

Hopefully, if all goes well, I’ll have a car and tickets to see the Tegan and Sara Get Along screening/Q&A by the end of this week. But until then, it’s as much cold medicine and sleep as everyone else will allow me.

216-220 - 10/14/11-10/18/11

CRAPCRAPCRAP. I’ve done it again. But with good reason, I’ve been working a lot lately. Every day has pretty much been the same, but they’ve all been good.

Basically because of…

  • Laughing endlessly at work and being told, “I’m so happy you work here.”
  • Hearing from everyone that I seem to be becoming more confident, more happy, funny, open and likeable. I feel this way too, and I’m glad it’s not just me.
  • I got my pay statement for my midnights and though it wasn’t as good as I was expecting (massive tax cut), I decided to reward myself with pre-ordering the new and highly anticipated Get Along CD/DVD deluxe package. I’m super excited. I also ordered the It’s Not Fun, Don’t Do It! DVD and the ON/IN/AT books because they’re FINALLY back in stock! Tegan and Sara make me happier than anything. I really think a good amount of my recent happiness has been because of them.
  • I have been having a good social life, and hang out often with my Dorian Gray friend. I don’t know where we’re going, but it does seem to be headed in the direction of relationship, which I am unsure of. I feel confused, a bit timid. I’m not really sure what I want, so I take things incredibly slow. I have all the time in the world, and I’m going to use it.
  • It appears I may be finally going car shopping next week. :)

That’s about it. I really need to stop neglecting this. I miss it a lot and feel like my goals are all over the place.

DiamondMind has gotten 14 cheers on this goal.


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