This is something I’ve always tried to work at, but it’s always been so damn hard to do! I’m never prepared for situations in which I can give someone eye contact and don’t realize it until it’s already happened.
And I know it makes things less personal and makes the other person seem like I don’t care as much. And that’s not what I am intending to do. I need to try to keep this in my mind more often so that I do it at the right times.
It’s weird though, I’m fine with eye contact when I’m in an established conversation (like asking my boss about work hours or listening to my professors talk). It’s everyday situations when I run into someone I know or buy something from the store where I just naturally avoid eye contact.
I guess I feel like the other person doesn’t want me to look at them. It would be too personal. Which is totally lame, but that’s how I automatically think in those situations.
I just really need to learn how to get over it and look at people more often.
