let go of people who are bad for me.

My housemate used to be my “boyfriend”, and that just didn’t work out. He would rather take care of his sex drive “solo”, AND he is totally NOT into talking about “feelings”. I am only the second woman he has ever “known”, in the Biblical sense (in other words, he’s only been sexual with two women, including me). He and I are WAAAAAAAAAAAAY past any potential drama: we are the two close friends living up on the hill with our animals, he is happy being a celibate hermit, and I am happy going to school and looking toward my future. Not a problem on either side.

HOWEVER: his mother (who lives 4 miles away) has it locked in her head (he is an only child, that makes it WORSE) that he and I should be a couple, REGARDLESS of the fact that he and I tried and it JUSTDIDN’TWORK. We have both explained that to her (his Dad is cool with everything, it’s only his Mom that’s wacked out over this), and I am so uncomfortable now that I refuse to go over to their house for ANY REASON. She can be fine for a little bit, but then she gets totally negative and I can’t stand to be around her. I feel like SHE thinks it’s my fault that things didn’t work out for me to give her grandkids – I told her two yrs ago that my tubes were cut and burned in 1993 – no more kids, ever.

So, I don’t go over there anymore. We used to have a good time. His Dad is funny, and his Mom can be GREAT, when she’s not being a nutcase. Her mom died in March, and a big part of her died with her Mom, I think. She has been much more angry and combative, and I just will not deal with it. I know I’m not alone. Anyone want to add to my stories? Please? thanks…

Knew him from school – we are both middle-aged (40s), and decided to give him a try. He came on all strong, TOO strong the first 2 wks, talking about living together, etc. – and, he’s retired military and has been living w/his PARENTS for yrs…big red flag. Saw him anyway, only few times a wk at school, only privately 3 times. Blew me off the last 2 wks, after I wanted to “cool it”, then I asked him to give it a try again. He’d said “Wait until after the semester is over” – but that didn’t work for me. He didn’t answer voicemails/emails from me, then showed up at school tonight, as if nothing was wrong. I said, “Check your emails, we are done”. He stormed out – apparently, I was supposed to just do things his way. I tried calling/texting/emailing him, to let him know that the no-contact thing wasn’t for me. Remember, we are in our 40s, not kids here. So, we are done, for sure. I like him just fine, but how in Hades can you have a relationship w/someone if you only see them once a week or so, and then only for a few minutes? Gotta call and email, etc to keep the connection alive. And, we both live at least 45 mins from the college, I live north and he lives south. A bad experiment, but I had to break my long self-imposed dry spell. oK, I’m ready for the chastisement: do your worst.