be less judgemental

Well, feeling amazing at ye moment. Don’t feel like i’m too judgemental. I think we are all naturally judgemental – it’s a survival thing, which can double up as an ego protection thing. It’s based in fear basically.

With my self-esteem on a high, I have less fear of my ego being dented, hence less fearful, thus no need to be judgemental.

With this in mind, I can hopefully see when it’s happening and tell myself – that person, is the way they are because of the life they’ve had – If I was in their position from day 0, I would be the same.

No gonna strike this off as done yet; I’ll give it some more time to see…

Hope everyones lovely!

Rob
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I tink, I’m almost there. But I can see it creeping back in when I feel low. I feel low at the moment after another break-up. It’s definatly worse when my self-esteem as taken a knock!

Ah well, onward & upward!

I feel like I made a big step today. Just getting through a relationship break-up; I apologised for being so judgemental towards my ex-partner. I didn’t see it at the time, but now I can see the wood from the trees, I can see how awful I was. I’m ashamed of myself.

I have learnt a lot though, and apologising, I feel, is a positive step. I think having the insight to see when & why it happens is important when trying to stop being judgmental, and I feel I have more insight now.

Well, I must learn from this experience and put it into practise! Wish me luck!

I still like cake!

Rob
x

I have a really bad problem with people who smoke. I have many friends who do smoke, but i don’t like it. I was bullied at school by people who smoked and I think I judge people who smoke to be like the bullies of my school years. I see it as a really weak thing, as many people who smoke simply do it to be ‘in with the crowd’ – I do not admire this.

I don’t want this thought pattern to go on. I don’t know how to stop it. If anyone can help I would really appreciate it!

I like cake x