stop feeling guilty about EVERYthing

In my marriage counseling I have learned that guilt has indirectly (and directly…) driven how I’ve deal with my husband. Being so afaid of making him unhappy (God forbid!!) or failing as a person, I stuck around and stayed in the drivers’ seat. Now there’s too much guilt to even leave when there’s really nothing there to drive. How does a person off load that kind of guilt??

Someone once told me that guilt is your brain warning to think about what you’re doing. It’s the reason behind your guilt that you need to examine. This is hard to do because, if you’re like me, your guilt came from your parents and religion. So what is the truth? It must have something to do with knowing yourself and having a firm system of values.