To reframe emotions try this:
- Instead of telling yourself that your emotion is bad, ask it what it has to tell you. Every emotion exists for a reason and the reason is always to help you.
- Instead of pushing an emotion away, tell it you want to have a closer look. Ask it to reveal itself from behind its mask. Very often you will find that emotions are layered. Anger masks fear; fear masks hurt. Getting past an emotion means getting through its layers to the root.
- If a feeling is overwhelming, say to yourself,”I want to ride this out first before I look at it.” Realize that the overwhelming feeling isn’t the real you; it’s something you’re going through.
- If you recognize that certain situations always bring the same reaction, ask what you need to learn in order for that reaction to change. Repetition is like a knock on the door—it stops when you open the door and greet what’s on the other side.
From The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra