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Yesterday I failed on day 12 and thought why did that happen. Upon further instigation I recognized a constant phenomena that appears several days or more in on the masturbation abstinence cycle. That is, the arise of the instinctive belief that sex is an integral part of life, happiness and fullfillment. In actuality, with a clear mind you can easily deduce that this is not the case, but at times, the impulsive powers of the mind can be so overwheelming that it can be very difficult to see past this deception. In addition, I believe what most people truly desire is romantic love, and the availiability of sexual gradification functions to fill that void because people easily confuse sex and love.
To combat the confusion that the brain creates to induce a state of venerability and thus influence you to masturbate, I decided to create a journal containing a series of article examing the philosophical, psychological, personal, and sociological perspectives of human sexuality and love. In this way whenever I cant see the light, I can read this journal and know that it will steer me in the right direction.

1. Do not watch porn
2. Do not fantasize about sexual activities
3. Do not physically stimulate yourself
4. Do not expose yourself to an unneccessary amount of sexually suggestive content
5. Be able to identify and have a plan to dissolve animal impulses
6. Know the full scope of your vision
7. Have self-confidence in yourself and don’t set limitations
8. Find a rolemodel(s)
9. Aquire knowledge and apply it as an empowerment tool
10. Engage your passions
11. Find and burn the reasons for this choice into your heart, making your heart a wall of steel (A steel wall does not fall in a day)
12. Find tranquility and happiness in life
13. Don’t dwell on the past
14. Know your identity
15. Plant seeds in life by staying involved and watching them bloom over time

Personal Antidote
I learned about sex transmutation over a week ago by chance and have been applying it since. When I learned about it I was in day four and today in day eleven.

Initially the concept seemed flawed and foreign. I mean if you change your thoughts from sex to something else how can you still be aroused. In order to answer this question I had to careful analyze and reassess my ideas about sexual arousal. Upon inspection I came to view sexual arousal as a continuous energy building process instead of an immediately jump to a higher energy state. In addition I realized that if you change your thought to something your passionate about and don’t let the energy lie dormant then the energy attained from arousal remains unchanged.

My next goal was to learn the proper technique and awakening the passion for sex transmutation. Napoleon Hill states that sexual energy will strongly compel release through physical means though this is not required. If I could divert the energy through other passions of mine the energy gets expended and sexual desire should cease. Empirical evidence seemed to confirm this assumption. I found myself being significantly more productive and energized. And I have since never doubted my vision. Interesting the energy created by sex and natural means are become less differentiated, and much more like a resevoir which arises several times per day. Believe me when I say sex transmutation has changed my life permanently.

Notes
1. Sexual Energy comes in two forms: mental and biological. Biological sexual energy does not form out of nothing and cannot be confused with mental sexual energy. In order to acquire biological sexual energy you must abstain from ejaculation for several days until your body builds that energy
2. I cannot more specifically tell you how to apply sex transmutation. Its something you really have to learn from experience on your own. I will say that you want to try and move the energy though your body.

Claim
Sexual Desire is the strongest driving force in nature and you can redirect that energy towards more creative endeavors

Grounds
From an evolutionary perspective, sex is at the core of human beings existence.
Alfred Kinsley, a psychologist of the 1900s, conducted studies on human sexuality and estimated the rate of asexuality (no sexual attraction) to affect 1% of the population.
Eastern cultures across the world, especially in the Middle East, have placed restrictions on women, their behaviors and appearance, in many cases because of their ability to psychosexually affect men in pronounced ways.
The porn industry is a multi-billion dollar a year industry
The sex-positive movement in feminism supports a woman’s right to express her sexuality through pornography and culture, and views female sexuality as an empowerment tool.
Gallup & Robinson, an advertising and marketing research firm, has reported that in more than 50 years of testing advertising effectiveness, it has found the use of the erotic to be a significantly above-average technique in communicating with the marketplace.

Warrent
Sex, sexual energy, and sexual desire/motivation is all around you; in culture, society, people, and likely yourself.

Backing
According to the American author Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich, men of great achievement have been of a highly sexual developed nature. Hill goes on to state that the desire for women and sex was an instrumental driving force behind these men. I have not independently assessed the veracity of this claim, but considering the author’s reputation and the reputation of his book, the truth of this statement is likely.

Qualifier
Anyone can learn how to control and channel their sexual energy with dedication and willpower. While there is no exact manual to accomplishing this task, success is the result of your own comprehension, creativity and strength. One key tactic is to change your thoughts when you get sexually aroused. Your mind will still be stimulated and you can divert your sexual energy to whatever you changed your thoughts to.

For more information about this subject read Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich chapter ten: sex transmutation which is avaliable online for free.

READ CAREFULLY
As a hypersexual, masturbation has always been a challenging issue for me. Between the ages of 14 and 15, I would often masturbate twice a day. As I got older and my hormones started to slow down my rate dropped to once a day and then to once every other day. I am now 20 and on the road to quitting masturbation. I’m only on day 6, which isn’t far, but I’ve had a paradigm shift and have made several useful revelations:
1. If your heart is not as clear as glass and as solid as steel you will fail. Whenever I have tried to quit masturbation in the past I realized my constitution was weak. I would often doubt myself or my reasons, developing rationalizations to masturbate. This translated into lower confidence and less motivation which inevitably lead me astray. This distorted way of thinking self perpetuated itself in an ongoing cycle. In order to be successful you must have strong motivations and beliefs to justify your behavior. With this you become less susceptible to uncertainty, which is a major risk factor. You can accomplish this by doing research and exploring your self-identity. I find either meditation or a quiet place where I can clearly deconstruct my thoughts helps.
2. You must recognize the nature of the drive for self-gratification and separate yourself from it. In psychology or sociology, it’s common to cover various psychologist and their theories as they relate to self-identity. A reoccurring concept was the idea of an inborn pleasure drive. Sigmund Freud called it the id. George Mead called it the I and so on. The important note is that this pleasure drive was the source of all of our biological impulses. I believe the pleasure drive works to deceive us into giving into our temptations. It does this by stimulating the creation of thoughts that would validate taking actions that lead to pleasure. I also noticed that it’s easy to fall victim to this trap if you believe these “heat of the moment” thoughts are a result of being autonomous. Learn to recognize the arising of contradictory thoughts and acknowledge the temporal ones as unrepresentative of your identity. Your brain will lie to you telling you masturbation is a precursor to happiness and such. Deny and destroy these thoughts. Do not consider them or let them linger in your mind.
3. You must pursue passions or a purpose in life. When I would masturbate the most likely circumstances surrounding it was that I was either stressed/tired from work or I was trying to stimulate enjoyment out of boredom. In both cases I was trying to use masturbation as a tool for creating something I had a deficiency of: happiness and tranquility. Remember that the goal should not only be to stop masturbating but also to remove that desire from your mind. The happiness and self-fulfillment that pursuing passions and a purpose in life bring make the carnal and transient desires fade. Fill your life with activities that make you happy and build on a sense of purpose. For example for me, these things would include writing fiction, watching anime, studying math, science or philosophy, running, or listening to music.

All of the above tie into together, so I would recommend if you adopt one, you adopt them all. As a final note, I would like to remind all of you that quitting masturbation is an extremely difficult task. If you are serious about quitting you must take full accountability for your actions and realize you are the arbiter of your destiny.