Not care what other people think

I think it is important to always define where you want to be when it comes to your goals in life, you know what I mean. I found it hard to define how far I was going to take this goal of mine before I gave it a considerable rest.

Well, I pretty much decided upon what I wanted. I recommend you don’t care so much what I have to say about myself, but more of what I have to say about defining your wants. For those who do care, I am writing it anyway to record my thoughts.

It may seem small, but it works for me and explains what I am aiming for. I am sure that I will edit this entry a few times over the week because I over think too often. Anyways, I want to be unstoppable in terms of myself and what I want overall in life. I would like the ability to go out their in the world and not give a second thought about what I choose to wear. I want to be comfortable in my own skin, and confident in what I want.

I say go for it, there are no excuses. Everyone should not care, it really is life-changing. Of course, don’t be cold or mean… In my opinion, this has nothing to do with being an arsehole. It’s kind of just, being you finally.

I found something out about myself today. I found that I have progressed, through the years. When I am skeptical about doing something I want to do, all it takes usually is me reminding myself that I didn’t care. Only on the bigger fish, do I have to force myself to face it. Anyways, thought I would share.

I decided to write out a technique I use when I can’t overcome my mental block about something I want to do. So let me know if it works well for you, I would love to hear about it.

Here it goes… When you find yourself in a spot where you are worried what people may think of you for wearing something silly or whatever it might be. Imagine for a second, yourself in third person, and then mentally separate yourself from everyone else. It gives you the confidence not to care, because you see you are one person, not the star of the show. It should no longer bother you, at the least it should give you the confidence to follow through with you, rather than someone else.

As long as you face it, your good to go and on the right track. You just need to give yourself some perspective before you dive into it. The technique is pretty much a way to rev yourself up before you go for it, and then I suggest the following… If I catch myself for even one second pondering what another may think of me, I immediately remind myself that I don’t have to answer to anyone but myself. I then switch my thoughts to the present, and what I am doing.

You won’t have to do most of this after you get used to doing these things without caring. It will soon be automatic, and you will be free to say and feel as you please without caring one iota about what people may think about you.

Here is the deal, no fluff. You have to know who you are, and love yourself. To be honest, getting to know who you are is so much better than following others around. Realizing for once in your life that you can finally do what you WANT for a change without having the “caring what people think” anchor pulling you down is an amazing enlightenment. I encourage anyone desiring to “not care what others think of them”, to find themselves if they haven’t already. Once you do, you will feel comfortable with who you are, and no one can make you feel any differently. To finally find you, and finally be doing what you have always wanted to do is something most never get to see with their own eyes. Call this bull, but you will only understand this when you do it and see for yourself.

I was honestly taught to think for myself as I grew up, but as like anyone else, I still have those times where I doubt my inner voice. I believe I am further along in not caring what others may think of me than I initially believed, however I still need some work. I want to share some things I have learned about the ‘art’ if you will, of genuinely not caring.

First, you will know when you are done with this task when you find yourself not giving a second thought about anything you do. An example: I don’t care what I wear outside my house, usually. I go out bandana, green dog tee, and a pair of sweats. I don’t even notice it to be honest, but when I do, I think “wow, I really don’t give a damn!”

Anyways, on with it. You must learn to listen to your inner voice, no mystic crap or anything advanced like that… It’s as simple as asking yourself what you want. You may already know, but are too timid to take action to get it, or you may not know it and need to call for it. In any case, the next action is to act on that want that you have for yourself.

Right away the first thought to pop into your mind should be, “Oh my God, but if I did that—” Exactly. Now it is up to you to dismiss it and realize that your own opinion and voice is all that matters. For the first time in your life, realize that you can do whatever you want without caring what people think. You now have control over your wants.

Then the hard part arises. You have to face the “embarassment”, but more often than not, it is hardly what you thought it would be. You think to yourself, “That wasn’t so bad, what was I so scared about?” Once you do this for the first time, you will know how to continue on your journey.

Listen to inner-voice.

Oh and please use common sense when following my advice. Don’t go off doing stupid things such as physically or mentally abusing people. :) kthx.