Treat my husband like he is the best husband in the world (cause he is)

My husband and I have a unspoken debate going on in our house. It’s the “Which way do you think the trash can should face” debate. We’ve lived in this house since February and purchased this trash can then. For some reason, every time I face the trash can the way I think it looks best and should be faced, I walk by and it will be faced in a different direction… the direction my husband thinks that is should face.

Funny thing is… neither one of us has ever said anything to the other about it. We just go about our days, moving the trashcan back and forth. The reason I have never said anything is because it doesn’t seem like something that’s worth debating or arguing about… however if we are still moving the trash can after all this time, maybe one of us should finally bring it up.

The right thing to do would be to let him have the trash can face the way he wants it to, but it honestly really bugs me for some reason… isn’t that stupid? It’s a stinkin’ trash can for goodness sakes.

What is the one thing that you and your spouse non-debate about? What does he do that really gets on your nerves, however you just live with?

Do you think I should bring up the trash can thing? Do you think we should just go about moving the trash can whenever we feel the need? Do you think herein lies a deeper issue? :)

I love being on vacation with my husband. What is it about vacations that make the spark in our relationship alive again? I’m affectionate, I’m fun, I’m loving… things that I know I probably am not at home with him.

How can I bring that vacation spark back into my marriage? We are happy and are in love, but I need to be more affectionate. I’m going to try and recreate that “vacation” feeling more often. He needs it, I know.

Nick just called and he got his flight changed so he’s coming home really late tonight after midnight instead of tomorrow night.
I’ve missed him and am excited to see him!

Nick is in NYC for the entire week. When he left yesterday morning I was so sad. I’m used to him traveling, but maybe since it was 9/11 I just had it on my mind of all the people who said bye to their loved ones that morning and then never had them come home again.

We went to Louisville, KY on Monday and Tuesday for a business trip. Ella was with us, so we weren’t alone, but it is amazing how just getting away for a day or two really sparks up the marriage. We were able to eat out at a nice restaurant, and since Ella slept, we actually were able to have a conversation. Amazing… that never happens at home.

I have a great husband… I’m very fortunate. During my meeting some of the ladies were bashing on their husbands and I spoke up for mine, saying that I had a “gem” of a guy and how lucky I was. When hubby came to bring me the baby to feed her, several of them came out and told him what I had said, that I had been bragging about him and how lucky I was. Hopefully through second hand conversations, he knows how much I love and appreciate him. It’s always nice to hear it from someone else!

Is anyone else watching this show on TLC? My husband and I have been watching it every week, and each week it brings up some subject that we can relate to on some level. It’s a great show to watch together because it makes it really easy to start dialog about different things with each other.

Anyway, we watched it last night and one of the topics was affection. My husband is really affectionate… I’m not, but know I need to be. I’m verbally affectionate, if that makes sense, but I have never been a big hugger/ touchy feely kind of person.
I made the promise to him last night that I will work on being more affectionate… giving more hugs/kisses, etc. Our kids need to see this, my husband needs to feel this, and I just need to do it!

a good week. One of those warm and fuzzy, I love this man kind of weeks.
Isn’t it funny how marriage really has its ups and downs? I’m glad that we have more ups than downs and really love it when we have those weeks that we are in sync with each other!

I let my husband sleep in today. I got up with the kids and closed the door to the room so he could have undisturbed peace and quiet. He deserves a day or two like that for all the hard work he does!

Granted, he was still up before 8am, but in our world, that’s sleeping in! I miss those college days where sleeping in meant until noon. sigh

I gave my husband lots of compliments yesterday, told him how proud I was of him and how much I appreciate his hard work each and every day. I told him how lucky I was to have a husband that helps!

We watched the show 7 Days to Save Your Marriage on TLC the night before. Our marriage isn’t even close to the point where it needs saved…we’re really pretty happy. However, the show really makes you open your eyes to things and makes you feel lucky to have the kind of relationship we do.

Sometimes I feel like the biggest Bit** when it comes to my husband. Last night I got into bed after taking care of all three kids the entire day, having a 2 month old who doesn’t sleep through the night and seems to constantly want to nurse. I saw for the first time in months the opportunity to read my book for a little bit before going to bed. Some time to myself that I haven’t had in ages. Well, my husband said “I know… why don’t I turn over and you can give me a nice backrub?”
I thought “Are you SERIOUS?????” And I said “I know… how about if I enjoy the first early to bed time I’ve had in months and take a little time to myself to read my book”. He sighed, turned over and went to sleep.

I felt horrible afterwards. It would have taken me 5 minutes to give him a backrub, but instead I was selfish and took the time for me. I feel like I have kids hanging on my all day. I get tired of people touching me and I get tired of being in constant demand. I really just wanted to veg for a bit and not do anything.

Why do I feel so horrible?