tell people how i feel

My best friend and I attempted to talk to my housemate about the way she’s been treating me the other night (and I’m so grateful for her for helping me :) First started saying how we’re worried about my housemate-she tends to lock herself in her room all day long. I live with her and don’t even see her! She also waits until I’m in the bathroom to go to the kitchen, waits til I’ve left to come out of her room for a long period of time etc. And it just makes me feel ugh.. She also does stupid petty things like segregating my dishes from hers, putting her kitchen stuff on her shelf so I can’t use it and putting the T.V in her room so I can’t use it (granted it’s hers, but still). And I’ve just recently found out that she’s been writing bitchy comments about me on Facebook. Anyway, my friend and I confronted her about all of this… she blatantly lied about everything, saying everything was fine with her, that she doesn’t have a problem with me and that those bitchy comments were not about me, when they very obviously were. She didn’t even react when I specifically told her, I’m moving out by the end of this year, because I’M NOT HAPPY. She just started going on about herself as per usual and whining about things. Ugh. All that effort and nothing resolved.

Getting slightly better. I think if I don’t speak up as soon as I feel I need to, it’s going to build up and up and up and just make me more stressed than I need to be.

This is so hard!! I don’t want people snapping at me, bitching about me behind my back etc. But nor do I want them to walk all over me or to think that what they’re doing is fine, when in actual fact, it’s not.

I was having some issues with my housemate and just bought them up tonight in a nice, assertive way, I think I got the point across that I was annoyed with her actions but I didn’t actually have to say it.

Saying something positive=easy
Not so positive=very challenging

From Teaching Challenges and Dilemmas: ‘I feel…. when you…because…’Helpful :)

minimise bitching!! I hate it when people are bitching about people I like and I sit there and say nothing. Next time, I am going to say /something/

I would really like to do this more, although I am a bit hesitant to people’s reactions. But I guess all in all, saying what I think is better than just bottling it up.