have more patience

I added this goal because of my children. They are cute, they deserve the best and I want to be a great mother, but sometimes they can make me sooo mad…
I know they test me and how far they can go. I know it’s not their intention to make me mad. They only have to check out things, try this and that and make sure they get what they want, which is a good thing for them to become self-confident.
Knowing all this made it worth to add this goal and try a thing or two:
My son, he will be two in february, never wants his diaper changed. He refuses to lay down and I used to get very tired of discussing with him that it is necessary for him to let me help him. Most of the time I had to push him down, he cried and I comforted him afterwards – but always with a very guilty feeling.
Now I discuss with him for a while then put him into the bed and walk out of his room for a few seconds. He has some time to think and play with his blanket and when I come back, he wants to lay down on his own, no tears or getting mad involved. It works! He gets what he wants, thinks he wins this first little battle and then gets his diaper changed after all.
Just leaving the room for a few seconds also works in other situations and I am much more comfortable now at home with everything: the cats, the kids, my husband and the rest. Very good for my blood pressure! ;-)