Tessa van Niekerk in Rustenburg is doing 40 things including…

Allow myself to only be treated well by the people I choose to have friendships and relationships with. If they do not, I need to find the courage to move on without them.

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Tessa van Niekerk has written 6 entries about this goal

Sometimes this happens when you least expect it...

And sometimes the courage comes from an unexpected source as well! Anyway, it’s done, and the restraining order would be applied for on Monday morning… Hopefully to be served by Wednesday…



Feeling raped...

No, I wasn’t. What happened to me was almost worse: I was taken for a ride by someone I thought was a friend of mine!

To me, theft is one of the worst crimes there is. It leaves one angry and empty. And yes, it’ll take me many months to recoup that loss. But then I read something interesting this morning to cheer me up:

“I can feel guilty about the past, apprehensive about the future, but only in the present can I act. The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.” – Abraham Maslow



Revisiting this goal...

I have found myself back-sliding from this goal yet again. Today, I caught myself trying to please someone I don’t like at all, not even on Mondays!

Needless to say, I have severed that relationship with a single click of the mouse (online relationships are EASY!) and am going to find a whole bunch of wholesome chatting pals!



The key is in the goal itself...

Relationships are a choice! The moment I realised that, it became easier to recognise seriously toxic relationships for what they are – POISONOUS...

And yes, I am a trusting person. I refuse not to be. Once in a while, though, one should draw one’s armor against the arrows: never attacking, but protecting one’s most vulnerable self…

The decision has been made. The action will be taken.



The irony of it all!

The moment I exchanged what I thought was a very important goal for this one, things started happening relationshipwise! It’s as if my new attitude changed my aura as well.

I guess (PLEASE correct me if I’m wrong, here!) that once I decided not to be a needy person, but a greedy one (in the sense that I know what I want) where relationships are concerned, I “smelled” differently and people started to treat me better as a result.

Nice. I like this. Going to carry on…



Life's to short for anything else, anyway...

And this goal goes perfectly with my others…



Tessa van Niekerk has gotten 9 cheers on this goal.

 

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