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10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

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Ed in Lawrenceville is doing 12 things including…

stop making excuses

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Ed has written 3 entries about this goal

Excuses no more

I really feel I’ve done this. This was primarily a work goal, and I think this component of my performance issues, I’ve appropriately addressed. I’ve feel I’ve made progress regaining the respect I once had. There are other things I still need to work on. Primarily numbers 1 and 2, “Get Motivated,” and “Be Good.”



I think I'm doing it

I feel like I’m making progress with this, but I’m not sure how to call it done. I know that when some people say they want to stop making excuses, they mean they want to stop making excuses for things they aren’t doing. That was never my problem. I want to stop making excuses for things that go wrong. I want to take ownership and responsibility for my own actions. I don’t want to run from accountability. That’s really what this goal is about. Maybe I should change it…



My issues with this goal...

When I set a goal to stop making excuses, I meant it in the most literal, active sense. The minute something goes wrong, the minute I make any sort of mistake, the string of excuses just flows out of me. I became really conscious of this about a year ago, and in that time I realize that I really have made progress. Just the other day, I was on a teleconference and my boss mentioned something along the lines of “Ed, I was expecting a report from you on thus and such….”

A year or so ago, the excuses would have flowed forth instantly. In the space of a few sentences, I would have concocted no fewer than three legitimate-sounding reasons why I didn’t have that report. Instead, I just said, “I’m very sorry. I completely forgot I agreed to do that. I’ll have it to you tomorrow.”

I suppose this was out of character, because later that same day, that same boss came by and told me she was worried about me, and that I should take a day off, the very next day, in fact. This may have been unrelated, because I have been working long hours the past few weeks. Perhaps she just sensed that I needed a break. But I read it as “You’ve got three days to get your s* together and quit screwing up. The next step’s out the door.”

My concern is, because I didn’t have an excuse, I look like I’m just “flaking out.” I’ve resolved myself recently to a more honest and straight-forward existance, and this goal plays into those values perfectly. But, I don’t want to lose my job over it.

I suppose if that happens, it isn’t the end of the world. I’ll remain resolute in my newfound dedication to honesty and integrity. I just never would have suspected that fear and paranoia were at the root of making excuses. I did it because I was scared the truth would somehow damage people’s perception of me.

If you’re still reading this, I both thank and commend you. It’s very long, but I think I’ve finally worked it out in my head and gotten to the take-home point:

I make excuses for myself out of fear. Fear that others will know I’ve made a mistake. But people have instinctive, innate “BS meters.” If I make an excuse for a mistake I’ve made, there’s a good chance they aren’t going to believe it, making them lose confidence in my abilities anyway. But more than that, they will know I am lying to their face, diminishing their respect and trust. Alternatively, If I opt for the truth in those moments of choice, they may still lose confidence in my abilities, but their respect and trust will actually increase.

So, ultimately, I suppose this post was simply a very long way of saying, “Honesty is the best policy.”



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