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Compassion in Art is doing 15 things including…

Never stop learning

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Compassion in Art has written 222 entries about this goal

Truly Understanding The Need

You’ll probably never fully or capably understand the need for equality until you are a member of a discriminated-against class of people.

One exception to this rule may occur when you love someone who is a member of a discriminated-against class.

People Pleasing

Do you want to know the difference between pleasing others and helping others?

Do you like knowing you were pleasing or helpful to others?

I have often been a person who pleases others.

I have made people laugh, cry, and sing. I’ve filled people with dramatic worry, anticipation, and joyous fruition.

I enjoy receiving clear feedback from others that I’ve pleased them.

I miss the times in my past when I was in the quid pro quo of giving and receiving pleasure.

These days, I don’t spend as much time pleasing others.

It’s important to understand the distinction between pleasing others and helping others.

Many people don’t like to be helped. To be “helped,” is to have needed the assitance of someone else. Many people want to be pleased. Fewer want “help.”

Often, people resent being helped. They’d prefer to be able to do things on their own. They sometimes want to be able to say “I did it my way” more than they want to achieve their objectives. Many people still insist on doing things their own way. Their pride prefers inferior results over conceding to others’ assistance. We are a proud species.

I like helping people fine, but I don’t pursue it much, for the reasons mentioned above.

In the rare cases where you can figure out how to please someone and help them, without them resenting it too much, that’s quite a thrill and quite a skill.

What We Learn In Certain Relationships

There are rare things that can be learned in certain relationships that many people may never learn if they’re never in that kind of relationship.

There are many things single individuals may not understand. There are many things people in other kinds of relationships may not understand.

Part of the reason I’m such a strong advocate of significant other relationships is that in some of them we learn valuable and rare things that are possibly not learnable outside of significant other relationships.

And while you may think I’m referring to sexual things, while those may be a part, more of the things I’m referring to orbit around trust, caring, dependability, comfort, desire, understood communications, empathetic skills, and ease.

Don't Risk A Lot For A Little

Only risk a lot when it it is for a lot.

The High Costs Of Answers

Sometimes it’s very expensive to find the answer to a difficult personal question.

But often finding the answer is still less expensive than never finding the answer.

Is This An Idea To Follow?

“I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”
~ Maya Angelou

Something That's Always Bothered Me . . .

So, tonight I was watching Star Wars with a young boy who was watching it for the first time. I watch the film about every 5 years to try to understand it on different levels, to appreciate the movie and story from different age perspectives.

After Han Solo delivers Luke Skywalker, C-3PO, R2-D2, and Leia to Yavin, he collects his financial reward and decides to leave before the Rebel attack on the Death Star.

Here’s the dialogue exchange:

LUKE: (getting angry) Come on! Why don’t you take a look around? You
know what’s about to happen, what they’re up against. They could use a
good pilot like you. You’re turning your back on them.

HAN: What good’s a reward if you ain’t around to use it? Besides,
attacking that battle station ain’t my idea of courage. It’s more like

LUKE: All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s
what you’re best at, isn’t it?

I think that verbal exchange touches on a nerve that has often bothered me. I’ve always been bothered by members of a minority who don’t stand up against the persecution against their minority.

Why do some homosexuals not fight for the rights of homosexuals?

Why don’t some members of some ethnic groups fight against the mistreatment of their ethnic group?

Why do some mixed race individuals hide some roots of their heritage?

Does it all come down to money?

It’s always been dangerous to identify with and stand up against unwarranted persecution. It’s often been “suicide” as Han Solo says above. But is it okay to turn away from the suffering of your own people simply because the fight will be perilous and unprofitable?

Anyway, these things have often bothered me.


Whether most people realize it or not, in our partners and signficant others, we often look to them to record and remember our common activities and past.

When a break-up occurs, there is all of the obvious issues of grief, loss, and jealousy. A possibly less-often considered loss is both the loss of someone who recorded so much of your life’s events and the choice by that person to no longer choose to record the activities of your life together.

That loss of unique memory data is probably a greater loss than most people may initially recognize or realize.


I’ve played basketball all my life.

About 3 months ago, I started experiencing calf muscle tears and hyper-extensions. Also, between my knee and ankle, I was experiencing regular tendon hyper-extensions. This occurred despite doing extensive stretching and warm-up exercises prior to playing.

A part of all this is probably me just getting old. I tried to troubleshoot the problem in several ways.

Eventually, the best solution I found was to stop drinking carbonated pop (sugared or sugar-free), reduce my overall percentage of sugar intake, and cut out alcohol (which I never consumed more than maybe 2 shots worth in any one day).

Now, I don’t which, if any, of the above actions may have been a causal factor in restoring my muscle balance in my lower legs. Also, my re-occurring injuries may have only temporarily abated and they may return. Also, it could have been something else, unrelated to any of my sugars intakes (corn syrup, fructose, or alcohol).

I don’t recommend anyone choose total abstinence as a corrective measure to much of anything in life. I don’t believe in cutting out “all meat,” “all sugar,” “all gluten,” “all alcohol,” etc. – as an early means of troubleshooting health problems.

But it may be healthy to attempt to reduce percentages of anything you consume regularly in significant quantities.

I was only drinking about 1 and a half 12 oz. cans of pop per day on average – not a lot. But combined with the other fruits and sugars, I was consuming more total sugar than the average person.

I told this story to a physical education graduate and teacher. He thought the same minerals and chemicals (such as potassium) – that are used to process muscle chemical balance – are also used to break down carbonation. He related a story to me of a multi-sport female athlete who was regularly getting leg muscle cramps, even though she was in athletic shape. She stopped drinking carbonated pop and the cramps went away.

Since reducing my overall percentage of sugar intake, I’ve also had less sensitivity, a lower pain-threshold, in my knee joints (which have always been very healthy), since reducing my sugar and alcohol intake. I can jump shoot with fewer aches for the moment. I have NOT measurably reduced my caloric intake or my weight, and I’ve continued to exercise every day without exception (but I was already doing that when the injuries were occurring regularly).

So, I don’t know if this information might be something to try for anyone else experiencing joint, muscle or other arthritic pains.

But if you’re having muscle, tendon, or joint pains or injuries regularly, then before I’d start taking concentrative medical chemicals, like pain relievers (such as aspirin, acetaminophen, ibuprofen, NSAIDS like Celebrex) daily at more than very minor dosages, AND before I’d start ingesting and adding concentrated drugs like Osteo-Bi-Flex (sythesized chondroitin-glucosamine) regularly through my digestive tract, circulatory system, liver and kidneys, I’d first try to reduce my processed sugar and carbonated pop intake.

The answer is not to replace the processed sugars with relatively comparative amounts of sugar-substitutes or “natural sugars.” I think it’s probably also important to reduce the total percentage of sweetener intake.

Start by only cutting just pop intake in half for 3 to 4 weeks. If you don’t see any improvement, try cutting pop out completely for 3 to 4 weeks. If neither shows any improvement, then lucky you – you may be able to drink more pop than me.

To get my sugar drinks, I moderately drink a variety of fruit juices and milk.

Sorry, cuz this is probably all boring, unless you’re like me and you love to play sports, or unless you’ve been having the regular easily re-occurring injuries and pains like I was experiencing.

Some more data on sugar and “diet” sodas:


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