All these conversations here have really hit home with my situation. I really didn’t realize how many of you are out there feeling the same things, going through the hell, and more. Although we all have different situations, it all boils down to the same thing. If only communication, respect, and a simple sense of caring would solve our problems! I was talking to my husband about all this and he reminded me that there is one thing that pilot’s have that becomes a big issue—it’s called EGO. He has seen it lure someone away from their family and allowed them to become better than anyone. So how do we deal with this aspect of a pilot? I’m not sure I know how.
Since my husband and I make a point of communicating when he is home, I can feel comfortable letting him know how I feel and any fears I may have. I know that this doesn’t happen for many of you, but I encourage all of you to try to open a line of communication. Remember that it is a two way street that we both get to drive on. We cannot ignore our dreams or our happiness. A marriage is about 2 people who share life and who care about what the other person is feeling/thinking/going through. Although we cannot change another person, we can change ourselves and how we live our lives. Is it easy? Never. But I will tell you it is so worth it.
I hate being alone and feeling like a single mom. It breaks my heart every time I watch him say goodbye to my girls. This is not what I signed up for, but I support my husband’s decision to follow his dream. And I still do because he still wants me to have my dream too. He meets me halfway and together we make the best of the crap that comes our way. I hope your pilot’s can find their way back to compromise, understanding, and doing what is best for the whole family.
