that I was falling into some old patterns of destructive thinking. I’ve been making excuses for him, devising reasons for why everything is my fault or my misunderstanding or overreaction, blah, blah, blah.
Sure, some of our problems are my fault and we need to work through them, but it’s not all on me. I need to take a deep breath, clear my head and stop spiralling into negative self-doubt.
Going for a run tomorrow morning will help.
Feeling happy about a little step in this area. Last night, my man started criticizing someone I care for. I usually have a hard time standing up for myself as he can be abrasive in our disagreements, but I kindly (but firmly!) told him he was wrong. He listened to me and actually agreed that maybe he was being harsh (!!!) I’m happy he actually heard what I had to say, but I’m even more happy that I was able to say it.
I want people to like me – but not at my expense. -Ellen DeGeneres