overcome my low self esteem

The talk with the psychologist helped me a bit again. We were talking about this topic, but sometimes I feel the answers seem too simple and even if we have the reasons for the problem, it won’t change anything..

She says I have so extremely low self esteem, because:
1. I compare myself too much to others..
2. I idealize others too much.
3. People put me in this role since I was born, so I can’t get out anymore..
4. I am the first child and was jealous on my brother. (I don’t think that’s true.)

I feel the situation is quite hopeless..

I had low self esteem. Even when I was 2 or 3.. So I made a small research on the topic and have found this list, some art true in my case.

Categories of people vulnerable to having low self-esteem:

- Children who were verbally, emotionally, physically, sexually abused
- Children who were not loved and accepted unconditionally either at home, at school or in the community
- Children of parents or grandchildren of grandparents who came from a codependent or dysfunctional family system
- Children of dependent parents (alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, sex)
- Children of workaholic parents
- Children of mentally ill parents
- Children raised in a high stress environment
- Children raised in an environment where feelings were not openly expressed, experienced, or welcome
- Children who have experienced the divorce of their parents
- Children who have experienced the loss of a parent or significant other in their childhood
- Children raised in an absolutist or fundamentalist environment
- Children raised in a family headed by a single parent due to divorce, death, or absence due to career
- Children who were abused emotionally or verbally in a school environment

I have been suffering from this all my life, but it got even worse. I can’t even study, because I feel I am too stupid anyway. I stopped talking to people, because I feel I don’t have anything to say that could interest anyone. I wanted to get a job, but I feel I am too incompetent for everything.

I don’t know how to start, what to do..