Here’s me pitying myself again. January’s come to an end, and it’s about time I stop being so depressing! I’m completely embarrassing myself by forgetting my bankpass after checking out at the grocery store, again and again. I feel like a complete dopey these days. And even if I am, I don’t do myself a favor by caring what people would think of me. I think I’m done spiraling down for the moment.
Also, there’s a new girl at my workplace. It’s funny, she reminds me a lot of Sam Sparks from Cloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs. She even has the same glasses! Ever since I met her, I actually started to feel a bit better about my life. I guess I like her, and I think she might like me too. But again, like every pretty girl I meet, she’s not available. And even if she was, it wouldn’t change a thing.
Socializing doesn’t come natural for me, and so whenever I do; it becomes a study. I don’t always learn something new, but this time I have come to realize something pretty important. Mainly: The gradual steps on the ladder of socializing.
|3. Friends||◄►||3. Girlfriend/Boyfriend|
This pretty much speaks for itself. First we’re strangers, then we get acquainted and somehow we become friends afterwards.
It takes but a small conversation to become acquainted with someone. I still consider most of the people I know to be mere acquaintances. But once acquainted, it’s the moments spent together that evaluate it into a genuine friendship. The sharing of moments, and the building of trust is what turns them into genuine friends! I have always assumed these things come naturally, but they don’t.
From what I’ve noticed, being a genuine friend takes assertiveness and initiative from your part. You’ve got to make a lasting impression, sometimes even make a sacrifice! You’ve got to be honest, show actual interest, and make an effort to proof that you really are indeed; a friend, rather than an acquaintance. And as Nietzsche once said so beautifully:
“What doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.”
This too applies to a real friendship. It’s somewhat like unconditional love, I guess.
I think the same “friendship rules” apply when a boy and girl are acquainted, and work towards a relationship. But that begs the question: In contrast to relationships, why does genuine friendship seemingly form itself naturally, despite of all the effort used to build it up?