moral: family is important.
set aside time for her and I to talk via distance to family. since most of her immediate and extended family do not live nearby. this entails specific dates and times, not to encroach upon established bedtime routines (ie no calls after 8pm).
locally and online, and get certified. yes, it is possible, apparently (no pun intended). no one is the perfect parent and we all have room for improvement. i took birthing classes, why wouldn’t i take parenting classes?
childreninthemiddle.com was specifically recommended to me as a divorcee. looks promising, but i’ll update after I actually do the course.
3-4 sentences, once a week, with at least one picture. i can do this. good record for me, the ex, and most importantly aj herself.
I’ll consider re-posting here as well, likely without pics. and I think I’ll aim for Sundays.
this is what a feminist looks like.
“When a child walks in the room, your child or anybody else’s child, do your eyes light up? ... that’s what they’re looking for. When my children used to walk in the room when they were little, I looked at them to see if they had buckled their trousers or if their hair was combed or if their socks were up. And so you think your affection and deep love is on display because you’re caring for them. It’s not. When they see you, they see the critical face … Let your face speak what’s in your heart. It’s just as small as that, you see.”
-Toni Morrison, novelist, awarded Nobel Prize for literature and Pulitzer Prize for American Literature
This is a good reminder for me as I’ve seen its effectiveness in action. she really responds quickly and overwhelmingly when I show a positive and loving attitude like this.
i need to develop subgoals for this goal to make it more concrete and organized I think. and so here’s the list:
unconditional love – modeling how to treat others and providing unquestionable support. being the rock.
feminism – for both girls and boys!
evening routine – nightly activities, bedtime ritual
love of outdoors
sense of wonder
moderate screen time
documentation in pictures and words
confidence, grace, kindness, compassion
is starting to ask questions about where we come from and who god and jesus are. her friends at school are talking about these things she tells me. so i did some research and have picked up several books on spirituality, freethinking, religion, mindfulness, gratitude, affirmations, and evolution for young kids. also grabbed some gardening books at the same time.
parenting is such a minefield sometimes.
also still working on her routine. i’ve established nightly activities for the week in an attempt to get away from all the screen time: music, audiobooks, yoga, game, and family movie nights.
This winter I’ve also introduced her to ice skating and snowshoeing. And she loves both! We’re still working on swimming on Sundays. She needs to learn to keep her face in the water and improve her stroke.
Yesterday we went on the first of three charter school kindergarten tours. It was interesting, much different than I had growing up.
I’m thinking of teaching piano to her myself for awhile to save money and time. We’ll see how it goes.
Screen time needs some more consistent boundaries I think. I’ve been rather arbitrary about it lately.
She’s been really good lately about going to bed on time and getting up in the morning and making her bed which is nice.
Also need to figure out a rotation schedule for sorting and displaying artwork. It’s getting a bit overwhelming.
i took my daughter skiing for the first time. she was a natural and loved it! :) might try snowshoeing next time around.
my daughter had her “class demonstration” for ballet today. The teacher doesn’t do recitals for this age group. We had a rough start as AJ tripped and fell on some gravel just outside the studio, scraping up her knee and hand. Needless to say, it hurt and she was not happy for about half an hour. Eventually she calmed down though and was able to show me how much she enjoys her dance class. It was great to see her moving around and having so much fun. She’s definitely developing her own sense of grace and style, and i can already tell that it’s toning and strengthening her body. I hope she continues to enjoy it and gets as much out of it as possible.
along similar lines, I’m still looking into a martial arts class to do with her. I want to keep her active and strong, both mentally and physically, and I like the general philosophies and self-confidence that are encouraged in martial arts. I also want her to be able to defend herself if needed. There are so many schools though, I’m not really sure where to begin. someone told me tae kwan do is more of a sport, so maybe not that? i don’t know.