listen more and talk less

I feel like I need to leave this one on here a little longer, but I’m getting much closer to complete. There are a couple people at work who constantly just try to talk over each other, and seeing that has really helped me to realize what it is I don’t want to do. One of my friends does the same thing. I’m pretty sure I used to do the same thing. One thing I have noticed, is that when you wait to say something, people listen a little more to you, than if your mouth never stops. Go figure.

I’ll have an opportunity to listen for hours this week, since my 2 best friends and I are going to Carmen for my birthday! YAY!!

I talked with one of my sisters and my mom last night for a long time. I spent most of my time listening, and it was great to hear what I’ve been talking over for so many years. Maybe if I had my mouth shut a little more I wouldn’t have to wait that long to find out what people are saying.

Wow. Seems like this is just a skill I need to hone. I’m getting much better (at least I think so). I still have those occasions when whatever is in my head just falls out of my mouth like I had no control over it. I’ve been trying to listen with the intent of understanding.

People don’t pause to reply, they pause to reload.

I’m getting pretty good at waiting and listening, and then thinking before I open my mouth. It helps when my mind isn’t racing. Those of you who know me a bit know that my head has been in a better place lately. I think this goal has so much to do with that.

Patience. Then thought. Then the words.

Once someone said something to me about the difference between listening and waiting for the other person to finish talking, I became much more aware. I think I’m getting better at actively listening, but sometimes, and with certain people, it takes a lot more work than with others.

I’m getting there.