should I stay or should I go?

My greedy bi#ch aunt has decided that funerals are too expensive, so there will be neither wake nor funeral for my grandmother. To top it all off, she is having my grandmother cremated rather than buried. My grandmother is old school Catholic and wanted to be buried in the plot she already purchased next to my grandfather (who died twenty-two years ago). I knew she wouldn’t honor my grandmother’s wishes. I knew she would rather pocket the money than give my grandmother the respect she deserves. My uncle lives out of state and said he wants no part of what my aunt is doing. I believe he is a wimp for not standing up to her.

Although my sister, brother, and I are quite upset with our greedy aunt, there is absolutely nothing we can do about it. My aunt still says she can’t locate my grandmother’s will (which we all know is a crock of sh!t), and we are still trying to convince my sister to leave my aunt to her evil deeds and stay out of it.

I’m horribly sad over this lack of respect for my grandmother. I loved her very much, and she doesn’t deserve this. My mother would never had allowed this to happen, and it’s just one of the many, many reasons I miss her so much.

My sister called me again asking for my help. Even though I advised her against it, my sister is involving herself in the arrangements. I advised her to say to my aunt that whatever she decides will be fine. My sister is a helpful person by nature, my aunt is a greedy bitch by nature, and she will take full advantage of my sister and then dump her when it comes time to pay her back. My sister already told my aunt that she is bringing over a few buckets of KFC to feed everyone that comes over. Even though everyone knows how little money my sister has, she will likely get stiffed on the tab. I told my sister that IF I come – and I haven’t decided yet – it will be to say good-bye to my grandmother but nothing more. I will not stay with any of them, I am not coming for any family drama, I will not have any meals with them. I get only two paid funeral days, so IF I come I will be there and gone.

This is a difficult decision. I keep telling myself I can say good-bye to my grandmother from anywhere – I don’t really need to fly down there and get caught up in their family crap. But my mother is buried next to where my grandmother will be buried, and I’m missing my mother a lot lately. Even more so now. I’ll have to decide by tomorrow.

My grandmother died last night. She’s finally with my mother again, so I know they’re both happy.

My sister called me this morning and said the family is fighting already and she would like me to come. I couldn’t stand the fighting when my mother died, and I’m really not interested in seeing the family again just to fight more. My grandmother’s arrangements are up to her two surviving children, and if they choose to go against my grandmother’s wishes it’s on their heads, not mine or my sister’s. My aunt and uncle are incredibly greedy, and they’ve been after my grandmother’s estate for years. As much as I wish they would do what my grandmother wanted, I know they won’t. They don’t have to. They’ll keep it all for themselves. As far as I’m concerned, they can choke on it. I would love to fly down there to pay my respects and say good-bye to my grandmother, but I don’t see anything good coming from seeing the family again.

How very, very sad.