So I think last night I was presented with something that will almost assuredly keep me single for quite some time:
I was asked to be the mistress of the gentleman with whom I had the affair.
Sure, it seems like I’d already be the “mistress,” wouldn’t it? I did all the typical mistress things: we met in a seedy motel for a night of sex and I paid attention to him and then he went home to his wife. But what this man is talking about is a different sort of relationship. I suppose a good word for what I’ll be is “girlfriend”...but my “boyfriend” is married to a woman who knows about me. According to the rules, he and I will both be required to ask permission before engaging in relationships with others, and if permission is granted then it must be disclosed to the third party our relationship.
If I want to sleep with Hairboy, i.e., I would first ask permission from [I guess I need to come up with a nickname for him STAT] If he allowed it, I would go back to Hairboy and say, “I’m in a relationship, but my partner agrees that I can sleep with you.”
I’m not sure if I’m explaining this well, and all of this might change in time. HOWEVER, what a great way to ensure that I’ll be single for however long I choose to be pseudoinvolved with this man! There are few men I’ve been out with who seem capable of even processing this sort of arrangement, much less who would be comfortable peripherally engaging it.
