So I was on Facebook today & I noticed something in my newsfeed that Cara had posted. She joined a Splurge Group. Now, I had no idea what a Splurge Group was, so I did a little research. Turns out that a Splurge Group is a group of 12 women who get together once a month for a girl’s night, ie. a spa night, movie night, games night, etc. They pay $20 at each event & then someone’s name is drawn & that person gets all the money (to buy whatever they want, hence the term “Splurge”) & they are also responsible for hosting the next month’s event. Because there are only 12 women in the group, each woman will win the money & host the event once a year. I think it sounds like a lot of fun! I would love to make new friends & have a girl’s night out once a month. From what I read on the FB page of the Splurge Group that Cara joined, it looks like that particular group is by invite only so I guess I’m out of luck for that one. However, when I was reading the wall posts, I noticed that a woman had posted a thank you for the invite, but that she was already trying to start her own Splurge Group. So on a whim, I decided to send a message to this woman & express my interest in joining her group if she does start one. Hopefully I hear back from her. I would love to expand my social circle & make new friends & this seems like a fun way to do it!
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On Saturday night I went with Matt to watch the UFC fight at his coworkers’ house. I’ve never been a UFC fan, but Matt asked me to go with him & I thought it sounded like fun to hang out with some new people. To my surprise, I actually enjoyed watching the fights with Matt & his friends. However, as soon as the fights were over, it got rather uncomfortable for me. Everyone (even the women) that were there at the house to watch the fight, works at the dealership with Matt, so of course the topic turned to work once the fights were over. I spent the next 2 hours of the night sitting quietly like a bump on a log as I listened to everyone talk about work. It was horrible as there was absolutely nothing that I could contribute to the conversation. I couldn’t bitch about annoying clients or problems with vehicles or new policies at work or anything. I was so glad when Matt realized what time it was and that we should go home ‘cuz we had to get some sleep so we wouldn’t be tired looking for our appointment with the photographer the next day. The entire evening didn’t suck though & I would go watch UFC with Matt again at his friends’ place. Just hopefully next time one or two other people come that don’t work at the dealership so that I might have someone else to talk to if the topic of conversation turns to work again!
...on an opportunity to do this tonight. Some friends of Matt’s got married last month out in BC & they’re having a party out at their house tonight to celebrate. It might’ve been a good opportunity to meet new people. I was thoroughly discouraged though when I asked Matt if there was anyone going that I might know & the couple of people he rattled off are just not people I want to hang out with. I guess I’m just judgemental & narrow-minded, but seriously, you want me to hang out with a bunch of guys who literally don’t seem to do anything but drink & do pot??? No thanks. Not my idea of a good time. I don’t do pot & I hardly drink, so I’d probably be the only one not wasted out of my mind & instead I would likely be entirely bored out of my mind. And Matt said that Michelle doesn’t really have any friends so there probably wouldn’t be many other women there. And Michelle seems nice which is why I invited her to my Partylite show, but I’m just not into the idea of hanging out with a bunch of drunken, high people. Besides, Steve’s 30th birthday party was also tonight & I had already said we’d go about a week before Matt came home & said that Ray had invited us to a wedding celebration. So I went over to Cara & Steve’s tonight & Matt went out to Ray & Michelle’s. Originally, we’d said we’d do both, but I just wasn’t in the mood today to try & pretend I’m having a good time with people I don’t know & probably don’t have much in common with. Yep, I’m definitely feeling narrow-minded tonight. Oh well. I prefer meeting new people at smaller gatherings instead of at large events. I hate crowds & feel so uncomfortable with large groups of people. Maybe we can have Ray & Michelle & the kids over for dinner one night instead. I can probably handle one pot smoking, alcoholic friend of Matt’s at a time, especially since I actually do like his wife & would like to get to know her better.
So I’ve decided to host a Partylite candle show towards the end of the month. Getting free stuff & hanging out with people sounds like a good idea to me! I don’t really have a lot of people to invite, but I’ve decided to invite a couple of women I’ve met through Matt (they’re dating Matt’s friends). Hopefully things go well :)
You could’ve knocked me over with a feather this morning when Dena called me at work & wanted to go for lunch. Said she had some news to tell me. Turns out that she’s leaving her boyfriend & has gotten herself a new man already. I’m shocked ‘cuz Dena always said how good things were, but what people say & what people do are sometimes two entirely different things. But I just want her to be happy, so hopefully this is the right decision for her. She’s moving into town, so maybe now we’ll get to hang out more than once every six months. That would be nice.
The other day on FB, I clicked the Like button for “Hi, remember me? We used to be friends. Now we walk right past each other, like we never met before. Fuck you.”
I need to expand my social circle. I’m tired of former friends who no longer have time to go for coffee or get together to watch a movie. I’m sick & tired of hearing they’re too busy with their kids, their job, their significant other, etc. I don’t have kids, but I do have a job & a boyfriend & yet I still have time to pick up the phone & call them to see if they’d like to go for a walk or go to the swimming pool & soak in the hot tub while we catch up on the latest gossip or go play a round of mini-golf. Like, WTF? Do they just not like me anymore or something? After I stopped working at the day care, I used to think that Dena & I didn’t hang out very much ‘cuz she lives out of town 20 minutes & didn’t have a driver’s license. Definitely not the case ‘cuz she got her license last summer & has only called me twice to go for lunch. And whenever I call or email her, she’s too busy or doesn’t even bother to reply to the message. Who needs a friend like that? Cathy is the same way. Disappeared as soon as she had a child. Lindsey moved 3 hours away, but is here in town at least once or twice a month visiting family & other friends (gotta love those FB status updates) & has never once called me to get together for coffee. Cara doesn’t seem to have time for anyone who isn’t part of the “Mommy Club” now. It makes me sad. I guess they weren’t as good of friends as I thought they were. Bea moved 7 hours away & although we talk all the time, it’s just not the same as having someone to hang out with.
So now, I need to figure out how to make some new friends. The problem is that I just don’t know how I’m gonna do that. When I signed up for Yoga classes, I was the only person who hadn’t signed up with a friend, so I was the odd person out. In my Tai Chi class, everyone else is at least 15 years older than me. I go to the swimming pool by myself ‘cuz Matt doesn’t like to swim, so that would be a good opportunity to strike up a conversation with someone, but it seems that everyone is already there with someone else. I just don’t know what else to do. I’m tired of doing things alone, it’s no fun. And I’m totally feeling sorry for myself right now & whining about it on here. Ugh!
Anyone got any great ideas for meeting new people?
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