“I must forgive so that the desire for revenge does not corrode my being.”
MissFitz has written 4 entries about this goal
You can't be both
23 months ago
I can be vengeaful or I can be compassionate.
I’ll strive for compassion.
To err is human, to understand - divine
23 months ago
I don’t want to forget or excuse
I just want to give up the resentment
Some people deserve to be forgiven
It seems that the first step would be get rid of the blame. I need to recognize everything on my blame list since it’s not clearly articulated in my mind. I need to identify all the outcomes I consider negative and perhaps realize that there are good things that came out as well.
Then I would like to see things from the person’s perspective. Operating from the assumption that the person is not inherently evil, all the acttions should be understandable or at least explainable. Perhaps we were both right.
“Behavior makes different sense depending on the perspective from which it is viewed.”
I'm going to learn what it takes
23 months ago
It’s not something that comes naturally to me.
I recognize that grundges are poinsonous to me and I no longer want to keep them. Forgetting would be great but it’s an easy way out. It’s part of me now, part of my history and you can’t rewrite history. So I’m actively going to pursue this until there is no more pain left. It’s going to be a good excercise whatever the result.
