be more decisive

I am still working on it. It is becoming more and more important though. Now I am learning how to drive, and I really need to be decisive for driving. Otherwise it can be dangerous!

I really like what Sera had to comment on my last entry (so long ago). She asked me why I’m indecisive. I thought about it, and I think my real problem is that I am a major people pleaser. I always want to please people, and I think that some of the reason I stand there so long, is that I am trying to figure out how the person wants me to decide.

It’s really stupid. And sometimes waht they want differs from what I want (when I know what I want!), and I try to compromise.

Maybe I should stop that. I should just be straight about what I want. Another thing is, when it’s something like buying a gift for a friend, while accompanied by a friend who doesn’t know the receiver, well, in that case I am not trying to people please.

Nevertheless I think people pleasing is a related problem of mine.

Help??

I have always had trouble making decisions. People stand around with me and go, “Oh, come on, decide!” and I stand there feeling anxious and trying to decide – what to buy, or what to eat, or who to hang out with, or how to use my day, etc etc. The list goes on and on.

It has been causing me great trouble. Especially now that it is summer, I need to be able to make decisions better so that I can use my time wisely.

I am amazed and happy that so many other people are as indecisive as me! I thought I was an irritating rarity, a bug on the shoulder of my friends. So it is nice to know I”m not the only one.

Does anyone out there have any techniques out there for making decisions? Besides, “eenie meenie miny mo,” because even that doesn’t help me!