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Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

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NualaBuala in Ireland is doing 36 things including…

Identify and overcome my fears so I can enjoy the freedom of living fearlessly

18 cheers

 

NualaBuala has written 3 entries about this goal

Hmmm

A few separate sources have started alerting me to a possible fear that’s been lurking unnoticed, masked as something else I guess.

Different friends have brought up the subject of love and relationships and asked if I’m open to them. I’ve said no and it seemed that my lack of interest was for sound healthy reasons – like getting healthier and wanting to spend my time/energy on things I’m really interested in.

And my spiritual life has been of huge importance to me, I’ve really enjoyed the peace and equanimity that have developed and based on past experiences of love/lust (and everything in between), I felt that going down that road again would just throw me off course.

And so these friends have been giving me a nudge and then I read about spiritual bypassing and I’ve begun to wonder if I’m doing that.

As I practise mindful awareness, I realise that there is fear there when I even contemplate dating or relationships. And that fear quickly transitions to a lack of interest, aversion even … but there is a gap in between the two states.

I’ve met some very nice guys over the past year or so but I’m aware now that I’ve put up a wall.

Ok, so now I know there is fear there I’m going to try to make friends with it. If I still don’t want to get involved after that – then fine. But fear is a lousy reason to hold back.



My biggest fear

at the moment is that I won’t get better. I’m used to being healthy and able-bodied and I’m struggling to adjust to having ME and fibromyalgia.

I can’t automatically say yes to things any more. I’m scared to say yes in case I won’t be able and then cancel. And I’m scared that I’m losing my independence.

It stings when I meet people and they ask the inevitable “so what are you doing?” – I almost dread meeting people because of this. I need to confront this head on.

On the plus side, I’ve realised that my sense of identity and self esteem were based on shaky foundations, on impermanent things. Hopefully I will get my health back and be able to pursue a career again. But I don’t want to depend on them for my wellbeing.

The Buddha knew old age, sickness and death were part of life – but the suffering that goes with them is optional. So I’ve got an opportunity to put this into practice here.



I think

a lot of people close to me think of me as a fearless sort of person but I’m really not. I’m just not afraid of making a fool of myself – in some ways at least!

I’ve realised that one thing I’m afraid of is being hungry. It’s a very primal fear, a brain stem as opposed to cortical fear if that makes any sense. It’s hard to explain but I’ve started noticing things like this since I got into insight meditation.

I think it’s one of the reasons I’m overweight. I end up eating too much to be certain I won’t feel hungry.



NualaBuala has gotten 18 cheers on this goal.

 

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