control my temper

Yeah, I want to be my username (an Oasis Of Calm) more often. It’s not that I never am, but sometimes… I get angry. If something or someone upsets me in some way, I react. I don’t know why, and I know it doesn’t help. I do need to control it. Sometimes I just need to ignore negative words, negative actions… respond in a better more rational way, I suppose. Hmm… it has to be a concious effort. Basically, I shouldn’t care what people say/think. Sometimes people just want to get a reaction, and it’s their negative problem. Other times, people don’t think about what they’re saying and how it might affect other people. I suppose if I could just breathe calmly, relax, and just think ‘ignore them’ or ‘ignore it’, and respond better somehow?

want to not get angry, for my sake, not anyone else’s. I want to stay calm, it’ll be better for me, and I shouldn’t let people get to me.

printed some pages off the net, about controlling anger, asked me to read it, highlight bits I thought would be useful, and then take the pages home, read it, and really try and pay attention to it. Also he said if I feel myself getting angry, to try and calm down, and if I do write what I did that helped, or if I don’t what I did instead and how I could have done it differently. I really do understand that getting angry doesn’t help anything, but it seems it’s just been my reaction to sometimes get out of control, unfortunately. If I could just breathe deeply, try and explain calmy how I’m feeling, not let things bother me so much, walk away and listen to music, I even thought of trying to express my anger creatively somehow (that could be good with sadness as well). Humour might be good too. Also to realize that I can’t change that things will be annoying/upsetting, but to try and deal with things better?

doesn’t solve anything.