I’ve a little dilemma and i don’t know what to do ..
Five years ago on my very first social website i met a guy called T we’d say hello, how are you and maybe share a joke then he’d disappear for a while and pop up again out of the blue, hello, how are you, more jokes. This went on for about three years. Two years ago he was around abit more and we’d talk about daily life, family and our love lifes, he’d just split up with someone he was going to marry. In the blink of an eye he found someone new just as i was in a relationship with the abusive ex, we swapped phone numbers and catch up with a conversation from time to time. He listened to my upsets with my abusive ex and told me he was getting married again, I was kind of shocked, it seemed so sudden but i tried not to show it caught up in my own relationship and its problems. Then he disappeared again, i was slightly annoyed, it was the worst time for me when i needed my friends.
He messaged my phone again a couple of months ago, he said he was sorry, admitted he had a habit of dropping his life when he was involved and he had learnt his lesson. I quickly forgave him, he was in a bad way, they had split up a few months ago, he wasn’t very happy, he needed a friend.
We’ve shared a few conversations since and talked about our ex’s. I’ve told him how far i’ve come since moving on from my ex and he should do the same, concentrate on himself, enjoy his own time, enjoy being single. He listened and made all the right noises.
The last month or so its become more regular, him staying in touch .. we’ve never met although its been suggested before and i’ve never had a problem with it but hes been bringing it up more and more. Instincts have been telling me, hes the kind of guy who moves from 1 to another and yes he wears his heart on his sleeve, gets deeply involved, i think he just wants to be loved, i think he thinks he can’t be happy unless hes got a girlfriend to love.
Instincts have been telling me i’m a possible in his mind .. then last night on the phone .. bam .. hes suddenly telling me hes always liked me .. it put me on edge and i don’t know why .. furthermore i don’t know what to do about it.