There were two rape victims and a woman who was recently rescued by her mother from an abusive husband. They aren’t any of the women I was able to help. The rape victims were from Colorado and Louisiana and our fund is for the DMV area. There were probably other stories, but I don’t ask if they don’t mention it. It’s hard enough to call strangers and beg for help. I’m still finding my script to get the information I need to help them without making it too awkward or uncomfortable.
The one thing I realized in going through this is that my regrets came from the failings of not being able to prevent the need rather than the actual needing of it. There are too many negative stigmas associated with needing one that are about the preceding behaviors. We forget about being human, the frailties that come with that, and the dependence we have on others for many things to work out the way they should. I wonder if much of the regrets associated (the ones that antis often tout) are about the feelings of failure in preventing the pregnancy rather than for having the procedure.
Today I heard through a friend that a woman who worked for me in Korea got a huge demotion recently. I could have told any one who asked 2 years ago that she was headed to this. I’d seen it before. I tried what I could but nothing seemed to help. Now, as I hear the news, I wonder, “Did I miss something? Could I have done anything differently?”
I sometimes feel I bare Cassandra’s fate. I’m very good at seeing the way of things, but oh so terrible at convince others that there must be change. It is something I contemplate whenever I look to the future and hope for success in my endeavors. Because I’ve failed in the past, and I’m not sure if people are better for having known me.
I’m not sure why I haven’t seen this movie before. It features some of my favorite actors, Matt Damon and Morgan Freeman, and it’s directed by Clint Eastwood. I should have watched it the year of its debut. However, perhaps it is more fitting that I should watch it after the passing of Mandela. A reminder of his brilliance instead.
“Sport has the power to change the world. It has the power to inspire, it has the power to unite people in a way that little else does.”
I love that this a real story of intelligence, faith, and perseverance. I love that Mandela was able to see that rugby could heal where nothing else might. I love that Pienaar was able to see the connections that made his team such a vital part of revitalizing a nation. Had either man resisted…
On Tuesday, I sat next to a Nigerian on the Metro and listened to him tell me what an amazing nation South Africa now is. Would it be so if these men hadn’t seen the potential? I think not.
I love that there is a word for this :)
Nothing is possible until you make it so.
Jack and the Bean Stalk is such a familiar story, so many lessons to be learned. So when Jack the Giant Slayer came out this year, I added it to my video queue. Tonight I watched and it was a decent flick. However, I was disappointed in one regards: the potential this film had to empower its female lead and its failure to do so.
Part of this story is about the desire of Princess Isabella to prove she is leader and capable of taking care of herself. She is the heir and future queen. The bulk of her story focuses on her arguments with her father about letting her do the things he’d allow a prince to do but which he forbids her to do.
There were several opportunities for the story tellers to have expanded her role and showed how she was capable. It could have added her strength to it without detracting from Jack’s and really given young girls an action heroine in the vein of Merida from last year’s Brave. Instead, we got what we’ve always gotten: a girl who needs a boy to save her.
For whatever reason, this is troubling me tonight. Why couldn’t Isabella have taken the crown? Why couldn’t she have come up with some clever escapes? Would it really have lessened the movie if she’d actually been what she kept saying she was?
Before you read any further here, read this and this.
Roger Ebert was a part of my life for a very very long time. I knew him with Gene Siskel doing the thumbs up or down thing and I was sad to hear he died earlier this year. Today I stumbled across those articles by chance. It stirred something in me, that this is my life philosophy as well. Although ‘kindness’ summarizes it really well, I prefer the fuller quote: “I believe that if, at the end, according to our abilities, we have done something to make others a little happier, and something to make ourselves a little happier, that is about the best we can do. To make others less happy is a crime. To make ourselves unhappy is where all crime starts. We must try to contribute joy to the world. That is true no matter what our problems, our health, our circumstances. We must try. I didn’t always know this and am happy I lived long enough to find it out.”
I’ve recently met a woman recovering from ovarian cancer. She was self-employed prior to the diagnosis and so her income dwindle to nothing during the treatment. Today, she found out her car needs repairs and the cost is significant. I know from being unemployed the fear of outstanding bills and needing more than I can afford. I know from watching KT going through her cancer that if I can help I should. I can’t help her the way she needs so I’m putting this out to everyone. Help if you can. Share if you can’t. I think even a small amount from enough people would make a difference.
“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” ~ John Quincy Adams
I found this story on Facebook today; just a moment’s curiosity about the video. It’s a story of hope and overcoming, a story about what impossible really is not. Arthur Boorman found people to believe in him and that gave him the strength to change his life. What strength can we give to others just by saying, “Yes, you can.” rather “No, that’s impossible.”