Get over the Unhealthy Aspects of my Perfectionism

I think University is forcing me to make progress with this goal – I have had to hand in so many imperfect pieces of work, just because they were tough or I left them too late etc. and then time ran out and I had to get them in or fail to graduate!

My “face my fears” goal will hopefully help, because it is forcing me into new and scary situations where there is no way that I can be perfect. Working on being more sociable might help too, as I can see that in real life everybody else makes mistakes (unlike seeing people on facebook where you just get life-highlights).

Ultimately all of this is trying to force myself to understand that I’m not in some holding pattern, preparing myself for a future ideal life. This is my life: good and bad, perfect and mistake-ridden. Mistakes are just a sign that you are putting yourself out there, growing beyond your comfort zone.

C and I got two quite nice new posters for the flat. This might seem like such a little thing – but for the past few years I have usually ended up with none because I couldn’t find the perfect ones. That’s basically where my perfectionism becomes unhealthy – when I think nothing is better than something only half decent.

The biggest problem it causes is at uni. Because only perfection is good enough this makes every task insurmountable, and I usually end up avoiding them altogether! I’m hoping little steps like this, of being ok with 60%, 70% etc, will eventually mean I’m ok with aiming for that in uni too.

Well I’m going to at least avoid it unless there is some reason I absolutely have to go on it – this should help me to stop judging everything I do in comparison with everyone else. In fact …

Step 1 – no facebook for April!