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Melissa in Tucson is doing 43 things including…

Perform deliberate acts of kindness.

63 cheers


Melissa has written 10 entries about this goal

at lunch today....

mom and I went out for lunch today, and because I used a coupon I was given to use during my birthday week, a free dessert was included, but mom and I don’t eat dessert any more.

we asked our waitress if we could give the dessert to the woman who sat near us half way through the meal, and with whom we had chatted a bit. the waitress agreed, and also agreed to keep it secret until after we had left.

we have also recently twice given some killer discount coupons to shoppers when we weren’t able to use them.

a friend needed surgery

Someone I know, really just an acquaintance, needed outpatient surgery yesterday, and had no-one to drive him there or pick him up. He really has no friends, I think. When he called my mom to ask for help, she suggested me, since she was going to be busy. So I woke up early yesterday to get him, spent 6 hours at the hospital, and then took him home.

It feels awkward to write about doing a nice thing for someone else, and I want no cheers for it. So there.

"Putpockets" give Londoners a little extra cash

from Reuters

LONDON (Reuters) – Visitors to London always have to be on the look out for pickpockets, but now there’s another, more positive phenomenon on the loose—putpockets.

Aware that people are suffering in the economic crisis, 20 former pickpockets have turned over a new leaf and are now trawling London’s tourist sites slipping money back into unsuspecting pockets.

Anything from 5 pounds ($8) to 20 pound notes is being surreptitiously deposited in unguarded pockets or open handbags in Trafalgar Square, Covent Garden and other busy spots.

click on link above for the complete story


I’ve gotten more cheers on this than on any other goal of mine, and yet I’ve hardly done anything worth mentioning (or at any rate remembering to mention).

I suppose the cheers are meant to encourage me, or the cheer-ers haven’t actually read my posts to see what a slacker I am.

prepared mom's house for her return

turned the AC on, and downloaded all her email to her computer.

a very small thing

a very small thing, but I know it makes mom happy: I turned down the air-conditioning after her long weekend up the mountain.

Rocky start with mom

After a little bit of a rocky start after Mom’s knee replacement surgery, have been trying to be helpful and generous. I never leave her house now without first asking what else I can do for her.


Several different times today in traffic I let several people enter traffic in front of me. I’m sure the people behind me didn’t see it as a kindness, but I did get nice waves from the people who went in front of me.

25 Ways to Help a Fellow Human Today


“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Dalai Lama

1. Smile and be friendly. Sometimes a simple little thing like this can put a smile and warm feeling in someone else’s heart, and make their day a little better. They might then do the same for others.

2. Call a charity to volunteer. You don’t have to go to a soup kitchen today. Just look up the number, make the call, and make an appointment to volunteer sometime in the next month. It can be whatever charity you like. Volunteering is one of the most amazing things you can do.

3. Donate something you don’t use. Or a whole box of somethings. Drop them off at a charity; others can put your clutter to good use.

4. Make a donation. There are lots of ways to donate to charities online, or in your local community. Instead of buying yourself a new gadget or outfit, spend that money in a more positive way.

5. Redirect gifts. Instead of having people give you birthday or Christmas gifts, ask them to donate gifts or money to a certain charity.

6. Stop to help. The next time you see someone pulled over with a flat tire, or somehow in need of help, stop and ask how you can help. Sometimes all they need is a push, or the use of your cell phone.

7. Teach. Take the time to teach someone a skill you know. This could be teaching your grandma to use email, teaching your child to ride a bike, teaching your co-worker a valuable computer skill, teaching your spouse how to clean the darn toilet. OK, that last one doesn’t count.

8. Comfort someone in grief. Often a hug, a helpful hand, a kind word, a listening ear, will go a long way when someone has lost a loved one or suffered some similar loss or tragedy.

9. Help them take action. If someone in grief seems to be lost and doesn’t know what to do, help them do something. It could be making funeral arrangements, it could be making a doctor’s appointment, it could be making phone calls. Don’t do it all yourself; let them take action too, because it helps in the healing process.

10. Buy food for a homeless person. Cash is often a bad idea if it’s going to be used for drugs, but buying a sandwich and chips or something like that is a good gesture. Be respectful and friendly.

11. Lend your ear. Often someone who is sad, depressed, angry, or frustrated just needs someone who will listen. Venting and talking through an issue is a huge help.

12. Help someone on the edge. If someone is suicidal, urge them to get help. If they don’t, call a suicide hotline or doctor yourself to get advice.

13. Help someone get active. A person in your life who wants to get healthy might need a helping hand; offer to go walking or running together, to join a gym together. Once they get started, it can have profound effects.

14. Do a chore. Something small or big, like cleaning up or washing a car or doing the dishes or cutting a lawn.

15. Give a massage. Only when appropriate of course. But a massage can go a long way to making someone feel better.

16. Send a nice email. Just a quick note telling someone how much you appreciate them, or how proud you are of them, or just saying thank you for something they did.

17. Show appreciation, publicly. Praising someone on a blog, in front of coworkers, in front of family, or in some other public way, is a great way to make them feel better about themselves.

18. Donate food. Clean out your cupboard of canned goods, or buy a couple bags of groceries, and donate them to a homeless shelter.

19. Just be there. When someone you know is in need, sometimes it’s just good to be there. Sit with them. Talk. Help out if you can.

20. Be patient. Sometimes people can have difficulty understanding things, or learning to do something right. Learn to be patient with them.

21. Tutor a child. This might be difficult to do today, but often parents can’t afford to hire a tutor for their child in need of help. Call a school and volunteer your tutoring services.

22. Create a care package. Soup, reading material, tea, chocolate; anything you think the person might need or enjoy. Good for someone who is sick or otherwise in need of a pick-me-up.

23. Lend your voice. Often the powerless, the homeless, the neglected in our world need someone to speak up for them. You don’t have to take on that cause by yourself, but join others in signing a petition, speaking up a a council meeting, writing letters, and otherwise making a need heard.

24. Offer to babysit. Sometimes parents need a break. If a friend or other loved one in your life doesn’t get that chance very often, call them and offer to babysit sometime. Set up an appointment. It can make a big difference.

25. Love. Simply finding ways to express your love to others, whether it be your partner, child, other family member, friend, co-worker, or a complete stranger; just express your love. A hug, a kind word, spending time, showing little kindnesses, being friendly; it all matters more than you know.

rather than random

flygirl ( said it best:

The definition of “random” is “having no specific pattern or objective; haphazard”. If life’s most urgent question is “what are you doing for others?” and, big picture-wise, we really have very little time in which to do it, when performing acts of kindness, wouldn’t it be better to have some objective in mind rather than going about it haphazardly? To be thoughtful and deliberate and intentional about the kindnesses we performed with the purpose and intent of making someone else’s life better?

Melissa has gotten 63 cheers on this goal.


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