stop complaining

I had a conversation with a man today about happiness. He told me that so many people complain and complain about what they don’t have. We could have an accident tomorrow, or get very ill. Be thankful that you are in good health, you have money in your pocket, a place to live, and a toilet that flushes. You get the idea.

I have a big workspace in my home
I live near the border and can escape the country any time
My rent is crazy cheap
I have love
I have health
I have creativity

I have been complaining a lot less lately. I really notice a difference. Problem is the underlying problems.
I live in a city where I have no friends. I have my boyfriend with me and that is great. But other than him I have no friends here.
Everything is going great, but I feel so invisible here.

Funny how just thinking about thinking differently changes you. I have spent so much time in my life trying to improve myself. Thinking oh, I’m not a good person, and all degrading thoughts which tag along. I’m so tired of this all.
Since making a goal to stop complaining, I have felt a change. It’s also easier on those close to you. When my boyfriend comes home from work now and asks me how I am, I just reply- good. And I really mean it. I’m ok.

Ok. Ok. I have to stop complaining. There are a number of reasons I complain.
- I always want to move to another place
- I feel like I’m wasting my time in my job
- I don’t have enough friends
- My boyfriend is lazy sometimes
- My bunnies make a mess and are scared of me
- I don’t have enough work/I have too much work
- I’m too skinny/too fat (yes, it changes)
- I can’t stay focussed
You get the idea. There is always something to complain about and I am so sick of it. I want to start enjoying my life and realise just all the wonderful things I have.